You savor the new carefree nature of the hair atop your head.
The pixie cut -- very Michelle Williams, in fact -- means no more detanglers, no more intensive conditioners, no more $100 monthly hairspray budget.
You're on top of the world -- until you realize you'll soon have to ask the dreaded question:
"What do you think?"
Insert uncomfortable silence here.
Do you ask your significant other's opinion before getting a dramatic haircut?
The question seems silly, and it brings to mind all sorts of cautionary tales about submissiveness.
Still, with articles suggesting short hair reduces sex drive in women, personal grooming is frequently prefaced with a request for permission.
That's not necessarily a bad thing. It's always nice to get a second opinion, right?
Tell me what you think.
(This post was inspired by an item on Double X's list of 40 reasons why single life is great. Read it, and then proudly yell, "I am single...hear me roar!")
Wednesday, September 30, 2009
Nicole Spence: She Stuck Her Finger in My Booty!
Hey guys,
I know I'm late but Let's get busy( in my Aresenio Hall voice! Lol),
I have an interesting Dear Nicole letter read below:
the other night while getting some head from my girl she tried something new and stuck a finger in my azz and i nutted like i never before and it felt really good but i don't want her to think I'm gay or something how do i tell her i really liked that shit damm why did it feel so good? i need to know because if felt so fucking good but i'm no fag is that acceptable? thanks
Wow!! My first reaction is that you're not gay! But Let's be clear if a man that I'm seeing asked me to put a finger in his booty, I would immediately think his ass was gay!!
I mean that's just a hell of a request!
But you didn't ask for it, your girlfriend just tried something new and it turns out you dig it! It's actually kinda cool, that you guys are delving into uncharted territory like that. Sounds freaky but she is teaching you about your body. So that's cool! And I don't think you have to tell her how much you liked it, I'm sure she can tell by your reaction! Shooot if she likes to "Rep her city" as much as I do, she'll be doing that shit again and again for that same explosive reaction! Congrats!!
Engagement rings
Over at The Frisky, there's an interesting discussion going on about the necessity of engagement rings.
It all started with a post from the NY Times Freakonomics Blog, where one guy suggested the whole engagement ring ritual is irrational. The economist's response? "I tend to agree with you."
I'm pretty much the stingiest person when it comes to traditional wedding rituals.
Since childhood, I've fantasized about a courthouse wedding and a fast-food catered reception.
When friends tell me about their over-the-top wedding expenses, I smile, but inside I'm thinking about how many trips to Vegas that same amount of money could buy.
So no, I don't really think engagement rings are necessary.
Then again, it's easy for me to say that when I'm not engaged.
If somebody I loved proposed to me sans ring, I'd still say yes. But things would definitely feel a little off. And honestly, I'd be mad.
Would you get engaged without a ring?
It all started with a post from the NY Times Freakonomics Blog, where one guy suggested the whole engagement ring ritual is irrational. The economist's response? "I tend to agree with you."
I'm pretty much the stingiest person when it comes to traditional wedding rituals.
Since childhood, I've fantasized about a courthouse wedding and a fast-food catered reception.
When friends tell me about their over-the-top wedding expenses, I smile, but inside I'm thinking about how many trips to Vegas that same amount of money could buy.
So no, I don't really think engagement rings are necessary.
Then again, it's easy for me to say that when I'm not engaged.
If somebody I loved proposed to me sans ring, I'd still say yes. But things would definitely feel a little off. And honestly, I'd be mad.
Would you get engaged without a ring?
FIRST LADY ALWAYS LOOKING GOOD
I feel the same way about Amber Rose that I do about Michelle Obama: they can do no wrong. (And I know I am also dead wrong for mentioning both names in the same sentence, but alas....)
In my latest edition of What Michelle Wore, we will focus on her knee-length, floral-print Thakoon ensemble she wore in Pittsburgh at the G-20 Summit.
While others were focused on the important political speeches, I was gazing at what Mrs. Obama and her sister in chic, French first lady Carla Bruni, put on for this photo opp. Who looks better?Personally, I am all about Bruni's chic, form fitting black dress. But Michelle's fun, floral print dress steals the day. I think she could definitely have lost the pearls for this particular look though and I am I the only one that isn't in love with the shoes?
Tufts University sex policy
A central part of college is your first "oh my gosh, I'm so sorry" moment.
The line isn't uttered after a family death. Nor is it said within the context of academic dishonesty.
No, "oh my gosh, I'm so sorry" is a response to the sheer terror of walking in on your roommate mid-nookie.
It's a character-building experience.
Doors are never again opened nonchalantly. You turn each knob with a cautious suspicion you could be entering a danger zone.
You also learn a conventional bed is totally overrated.
Granted, that lesson comes somewhat forcibly. You stake out a comfortable spot on the study lounge's couch -- you know, to avoid a repeat brush with nighttime awkwardness.
At the very least, you first nookie walk-in is a necessary right of passage.
Which is why I wonder what will happen now that Tufts University has instituted a policy prohibiting couples from having sex when a roommate is in the room.
There are obvious questions about enforcement.
More importantly, the rule will dampen the entertainment value of stories from the dorm room war zone.
Because even amid midterms and research papers, one of college's best lessons comes in learning to ignore a set of bodies moving all too suspiciously in the bed beside you.
The line isn't uttered after a family death. Nor is it said within the context of academic dishonesty.
No, "oh my gosh, I'm so sorry" is a response to the sheer terror of walking in on your roommate mid-nookie.
It's a character-building experience.
Doors are never again opened nonchalantly. You turn each knob with a cautious suspicion you could be entering a danger zone.
You also learn a conventional bed is totally overrated.
Granted, that lesson comes somewhat forcibly. You stake out a comfortable spot on the study lounge's couch -- you know, to avoid a repeat brush with nighttime awkwardness.
At the very least, you first nookie walk-in is a necessary right of passage.
Which is why I wonder what will happen now that Tufts University has instituted a policy prohibiting couples from having sex when a roommate is in the room.
There are obvious questions about enforcement.
More importantly, the rule will dampen the entertainment value of stories from the dorm room war zone.
Because even amid midterms and research papers, one of college's best lessons comes in learning to ignore a set of bodies moving all too suspiciously in the bed beside you.
JAY-Z ON OPRAH
Here you go again, smelling good," Winfrey joked as Jay-Z walked on the set. The line was in reference to her call with Gayle King where she remarked after meeting the rapper she discovered how good he smelled.
"That's swagger," an audience member chimed in, drawing Jay's laughter.
The pair appeared at ease with each other as the talk-show queen asked the rapper about his drug-dealing past, his marriage to Beyoncé and his relationship with his father, whom Jay-Z had been estranged from before reuniting with him before his death.
They agreed to disagree over issues with the N-word. Jay-Z said people give words power, and as a culture, we can take that away. Winfrey steadfastly disagreed, saying for her generation, the word is loaded with degradation.
USHER IN POLITICS
Usher Raymond IV and Partners Launch International Call to Service at the Clinton Global Initiative Involving 5,000,000 Youth Around the World.
Tuesday, September 29, 2009
Relationship trend: Blogging together
The couple that blogs together...stays together?
I'm not convinced.
But tons of twosomes tackle the cyber world together -- and some even say it strengthens their relationship.
The concept crossed my mind when I recently spotted a link to My Married Life, a blog penned by lifestyle writer Holly and her "better half" Jack.
They share blogging duties, individually writing posts that cover topics ranging from household chores to male fashion.
I've seen a good share of newlyweds embark on a "we" blog project.
Unfortunately, the endeavor frequently results in the female half of the relationship writing the entire blog. Or penning entries under her husband's name. (Dead giveaway: A headline that reads "I have the best wife ever!")
Something else that annoys me in the couples blogging universe?
When people set up their posts with a byline that includes both of their names. You know, like "by Sarah and Matt."
That is also a giveaway that the woman wrote the entire thing.
But maybe I'm being too cynical.
Weigh in with your stories about couples blogging.
I'm not convinced.
But tons of twosomes tackle the cyber world together -- and some even say it strengthens their relationship.
The concept crossed my mind when I recently spotted a link to My Married Life, a blog penned by lifestyle writer Holly and her "better half" Jack.
They share blogging duties, individually writing posts that cover topics ranging from household chores to male fashion.
I've seen a good share of newlyweds embark on a "we" blog project.
Unfortunately, the endeavor frequently results in the female half of the relationship writing the entire blog. Or penning entries under her husband's name. (Dead giveaway: A headline that reads "I have the best wife ever!")
Something else that annoys me in the couples blogging universe?
When people set up their posts with a byline that includes both of their names. You know, like "by Sarah and Matt."
That is also a giveaway that the woman wrote the entire thing.
But maybe I'm being too cynical.
Weigh in with your stories about couples blogging.
Kim Kardashian and Reggie Bush
You leave the wedding under a spell.
It's not caused by eating bland reception dinner chicken, or dancing to mid-'90s throwback tunes.
Nonetheless, you are disoriented. Your symptoms are clear.
They include calling your most recent ex, tearfully putting your differences aside and mumbling incoherently about the power of true love.
That's what happens when you witness marital bliss.
Even celebrities suffer from post-wedding stress syndrome.
Just ask Kim Kardashian. She reportedly got back together with ex Reggie Bush after seeing her sister Khloe tie the knot over the weekend.
It's an understandable condition.
When you're single, going to a wedding often brings a new sense of urgency to your own relationship status.
Hearing your formerly unattached comrade say "I do" might refresh your fears of being the only single person left -- IN THE WORLD.
What's more, the bright smiles and flowery adjectives that accompany weddings can simplify the real work that goes into a partnership.
So you enter a hazy mindset, convinced that you WILL make your failed relationship work. Because you want to dance the Macarena in a ball gown, dammit.
Fortunately, post-wedding stress syndrome often subsides once you leave the reception hall's color-coordinated bubble.
And if still can't shake your symptoms, pick up a gossip magazine -- a reminder that marriage is best defined as a two-week ordeal.
It's not caused by eating bland reception dinner chicken, or dancing to mid-'90s throwback tunes.
Nonetheless, you are disoriented. Your symptoms are clear.
They include calling your most recent ex, tearfully putting your differences aside and mumbling incoherently about the power of true love.
That's what happens when you witness marital bliss.
Even celebrities suffer from post-wedding stress syndrome.
Just ask Kim Kardashian. She reportedly got back together with ex Reggie Bush after seeing her sister Khloe tie the knot over the weekend.
It's an understandable condition.
When you're single, going to a wedding often brings a new sense of urgency to your own relationship status.
Hearing your formerly unattached comrade say "I do" might refresh your fears of being the only single person left -- IN THE WORLD.
What's more, the bright smiles and flowery adjectives that accompany weddings can simplify the real work that goes into a partnership.
So you enter a hazy mindset, convinced that you WILL make your failed relationship work. Because you want to dance the Macarena in a ball gown, dammit.
Fortunately, post-wedding stress syndrome often subsides once you leave the reception hall's color-coordinated bubble.
And if still can't shake your symptoms, pick up a gossip magazine -- a reminder that marriage is best defined as a two-week ordeal.
Free Tuesday shows!
Two cool -- and FREE -- options for Tuesday night partiers:
The Shanty Shack, 4475 Warm Springs Road, hosts a performance by local party band Haywire. Music starts at 7 p.m. Call 706-507-3418.
The Shanty Shack, 4475 Warm Springs Road, hosts a performance by local party band Haywire. Music starts at 7 p.m. Call 706-507-3418.
Also, the local rockers from Poanna entertain at SoHo Bar & Grill, 5751 Milgen Road. Music starts at 9 p.m. Call 706-568-3316.
Both shows are open to guests 21 and older.
Monday, September 28, 2009
WTF? Tyson Would Sleep with Obama?
"I don't actually go that way, though I notice a lot of people think I do. But umm, you know what, if Imma do it, I'm going for [Barack] Obama. If I got with him, I could run the country. If I was that way, Obama, I'd be gunning for you brother! I'd be the one in control. That's if I was that way. Who you gonna go for? Will Smith? Somebody pretty like that? Not to say Obama's not pretty. But I'd go straight for Obama because you got power then. You could run red lights and just wild out. And I'd have Michelle [Obama]hold the camera!"
– Supermodel Tyson Beckford answering: "If you had to spend the night with a man, who would it be and why?"
Secret meet markets
You've heard about bars. Restaurants. Even the local bowling alley.
But when it comes to local meet markets, what's Columbus' best kept secret?
The question hit me after reading this YourTango piece, which lists six secret places to meet men. Among the offerings: conventions, weddings and -- brace yourself -- recovery programs.
I always get e-mails from local singletons who expect me to know about some hidden grotto where all the eligible bachelors/bachelorettes hide.
Sorry, you're out of luck.
But if you're single and ready to mingle, you're hardly restricted to the bar scene.
Has anyone else noticed the meet market potential of Barnes & Noble in Columbus Park Crossing? It's remarkable.
Also, adult sports -- from kickball to soccer -- have grown in popularity recently. Most offer coed leagues.
Other recommendations?
But when it comes to local meet markets, what's Columbus' best kept secret?
The question hit me after reading this YourTango piece, which lists six secret places to meet men. Among the offerings: conventions, weddings and -- brace yourself -- recovery programs.
I always get e-mails from local singletons who expect me to know about some hidden grotto where all the eligible bachelors/bachelorettes hide.
Sorry, you're out of luck.
But if you're single and ready to mingle, you're hardly restricted to the bar scene.
Has anyone else noticed the meet market potential of Barnes & Noble in Columbus Park Crossing? It's remarkable.
Also, adult sports -- from kickball to soccer -- have grown in popularity recently. Most offer coed leagues.
Other recommendations?
Finances postpone marriage
I love you, but we can't get married until my credit card debt is gone.
Fair?
I read/stalk a lot of dating blogs, and it seems like a lot of young women are glum because the rotten economy has made them postpone marriage.
One of my favorite blogs, This Fish Needs a Bicycle, sums up the feeling nicely:
Compared to my former, irresponsible life this new practical one is hard on the spirit. Even those big, romantic, swoony Let's Get Married! talks have all turned into, "one day when we're out of debt and out of school and blah blah" and I can't help but feel a little bit disappointed all the time.
These posts kind of surprise me because -- aside from the expenses of a wedding ceremony -- I always thought you save money by being married.
Tons of people complain about delaying marriage so they can fend off debt.
But amid a recession, I've seen just as many couples get hitched on a whim. Many say their love has actually grown in the face of financial uncertainty.
Tell me: To what extent did your personal finances impact your time frame for tying the knot?
Fair?
I read/stalk a lot of dating blogs, and it seems like a lot of young women are glum because the rotten economy has made them postpone marriage.
One of my favorite blogs, This Fish Needs a Bicycle, sums up the feeling nicely:
Compared to my former, irresponsible life this new practical one is hard on the spirit. Even those big, romantic, swoony Let's Get Married! talks have all turned into, "one day when we're out of debt and out of school and blah blah" and I can't help but feel a little bit disappointed all the time.
These posts kind of surprise me because -- aside from the expenses of a wedding ceremony -- I always thought you save money by being married.
Tons of people complain about delaying marriage so they can fend off debt.
But amid a recession, I've seen just as many couples get hitched on a whim. Many say their love has actually grown in the face of financial uncertainty.
Tell me: To what extent did your personal finances impact your time frame for tying the knot?
Please forgive me
Our sensitivity detectors sometimes get a little skewed in a breakup's aftermath.
We become experts in character assault, penning reputation-damaging blog posts and cryptic Facebook status updates.
When you're blinded by heartbreak, certain thoughts don't cross your mind. Among those: "Hey, his mom might read this."
Most of us end up regarding our breakup rage as a mere misstep in the journey toward love.
But what if you were compelled to ask an ex for forgiveness?
In this Double X essay, one woman details the guilt she felt after writing a column badmouthing her ex. Ultimately, that guilt was strong enough to make her ask for forgiveness face-to-face.
Would you ever do the same?
We become experts in character assault, penning reputation-damaging blog posts and cryptic Facebook status updates.
When you're blinded by heartbreak, certain thoughts don't cross your mind. Among those: "Hey, his mom might read this."
Most of us end up regarding our breakup rage as a mere misstep in the journey toward love.
But what if you were compelled to ask an ex for forgiveness?
In this Double X essay, one woman details the guilt she felt after writing a column badmouthing her ex. Ultimately, that guilt was strong enough to make her ask for forgiveness face-to-face.
Would you ever do the same?
Dr Boyce Watkins: What’s Wrong with Ebony Magazine?
by Dr. Boyce Watkins, MSNBC’s TheGrio.com
The black journalism students here at Syracuse often come to me to find out how the industry works. They sometimes instinctively wonder if their professors' stories about being in a CBS newsroom in 1982 are going to help them survive in a world run by Twitter, Myspace and Facebook. The answer is a resounding "probably not."
While respecting the journalism professors teaching their classes, I simply use examples like Ebony Magazine to help them realize that black media is changing, and sites like theGrio.com, BlackVoices.com, and TheRoot.com, are examples of how black media has evolved. In fact, a journalist who doesn't understand technology and business models is in danger of starting his/her career as a dinosaur.
When it comes to recent reports about Ebony Magazine being offered for sale, I admit that I was saddened, but not surprised. The Ebony Fashion Fair has become one of the most celebrated events in black America, and the magazine has been nothing less than a tremendous source of national pride since its creation in 1945. But in the age of the web, oversized bureaucracies can be crushed under the weight of their own arrogance. Bloated payrolls, pompous corporate functions and a sense of entitlement make them easy prey for quick, hungry and rapidly evolving competition.
In spite of the tremendous love we have for Ebony/Jet, the truth must be confronted when realizing that it is what radio was to TV or what the train was to the airplane. Like radios and trains, there is still a place for print media, but that role is no longer dominant. The current economic climate only accelerated the inevitable, since advertisers were eventually going to stop spending $50,000 for magazine ads when they can buy the same number of eyeballs for $5,000 or less.
I present the following 5 questions I'd like to ask out loud about both Ebony Magazine and the state of African American media:
Celebs Endorse Dangerous Drug
from TheGrio.com
You see it all over television, celebrities endorsing "syrup," which is a combination of cough syrup with codeine and soda, two ingredients that can make for a lethal recipe.
Stores in Southeast Texas are now carrying the products that bear the names "drank" and "syrup", but with a different twist.
Drank and Sippin Syrup are two examples of a new anti-energy drink that is supposed to provide "extreme relaxation." There is nothing harmful in these products, in fact one of the main ingredients is Melatonin, a natural substance that helps you sleep.
18-year-old Jackie Robinson says he just started drinking this anti-energy drink because of the slogan, "sippin syrup."
"I ain't gonna lie it really do," said Robinson Wednesday afternoon as he sipped his drink outside a Beaumont convenient store. "It probably attracts a lot of people from the name too."
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LL COOL J LOOKING GOOD
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CBS scored big with its new spinoff "NCIS: Los Angeles" starring LL Cool J and Chris O'Donnell.
According to the Hollywood Reporter, Tuesday marked the network's most-watched premiere night since 1993 – thanks to the one-two-three punch of "NCIS" (20.6 million viewers), "NCIS: Los Angeles" (18.7 million) and new series "The Good Wife" (13.7 million).
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T-PAIN AND ELLEN RAPPING…WTF
T-Pain stopped by "The Ellen Degeneres Show" on Wednesday to promote his new "I Am T-Pain" app for the iPhone, which allows anyone to alter their voice with his favorite pitch tuning device, auto-tune.
During her monologue, Ellen began playing around with the auto-tune microphone, saying how nice it would be if everyone had access to the technology.
SNOOP DOGG ON TOUR
The outing kicks off in Baltimore, MD on Oct. 27. So far, the trek consists of shows in 11 cities, including New York (10/29), Boston (11/1) and Chicago (11/4), with the outing concluding Nov. 8 in Dallas, TX.
Snoop Dogg will go on tour in October to promote his forthcoming studio album, "Malice in Wonderland," which is set to surface in December.
HOLYFIELD ON GLOBAL WARMING
Boxer Evander Holyfield will today announce that he plans to take on one of his toughest opponents yet: global warming.
The champ intends to build a 40 acre solar energy farm on his estate in Georgia. Teaming with Global-NES-Georgia, Inc., the solar farm is an attempt by the boxer to find solutions for protecting the environment.
OMARION HAS NEW ABULM
Omarion returns to the scene with a new album and label imprint, Starworld Entertainment, through EMI Label Services. The R&B star will release his third studio album, "Ollusion," on Nov. 24th.
The first single, "I Get It In," has Omarion reuniting with producer Tank, who helmed the title track and single "O" on the artist's debut album. The track features Southern rapper Gucci Mane.
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WARREN G GOING ON TOUR…WTF
According to Live Daily, the trek begins Oct. 27 in Austin, TX, with club and theater shows lined up through November, and comes to a close Nov. 24 in San Francisco. Dates are below
Warren G is mounting a fall headlining tour to support his first album in four years, "The G Files," which hits stores later this month.
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Sunday, September 27, 2009
Hollywood Director Arrested for Drugging and Raping a 13-year Old Girl
Filmmaker Roman Polanski has been arrested on an arrest warrant stemming from a decades-old sex charge, Swiss police said Sunday.
Roman Polanski attends a film premiere in Paris, France, in June 2009.
The Academy Award-winning director pleaded guilty in 1977 to a single count of having unlawful sexual intercourse with a minor, acknowledging he had sex with a 13-year-old girl, but fled the United States before he could be sentenced. U.S. authorities issued a warrant for his arrest in 1978.
He was taken into custody trying to enter Switzerland on Saturday, Zurich police said.
Polanski, 76, has lived in France for decades to avoid being arrested if he enters the U.S. He declined to collect his Academy Award for Best Director in person when he won it for "The Pianist" in 2003.
He was en route to the Zurich Film Festival, which is holding a tribute to him, when he was arrested by Swiss authorities, the festival said.
Polanski was nominated for best director Oscars for "Tess" and "Chinatown," and for best writing for "Rosemary's Baby," which he also directed.
"Roman Polanski, who is one of the greatest film directors of all time, would have been honored for his life's work in Zurich today," the film festival said in a statement.
Click to readWhy Michael Vick Has Been Good for Animal Rights
Maybe it was one of the times John Goodwin found a more receptive audience while lobbying politicians for stricter sentencing against dogfighting.
Maybe it was one of the times a law enforcement training session was packed with police.
Maybe it was while he was riding along on what is an increasing number of raids on dogfighting operations.
Whenever it was, there was a moment over the past two years that Goodwin, the anti-dog fighting expert at the Humane Society of the United States, realized that of all the unexpected things, a silver lining had formed in the ugly clouds of the Michael Vick(notes) scandal.
“People campaigned against dogfighting ever since the first dogfight ever happened,” Goodwin said. “But never had there been a spotlight put on this issue like when Michael Vick was involved in it.
Saturday, September 26, 2009
Wow: Gospel Singer Blasts Out of the Closet
Earlier this month, clips of a taped television interview that gospel music sensation Tonex conducted for 'The Lexi Show' (on the Gospel network) surfaced on the Internet and caused a heated frenzy within the black religious industry. During the revealing conversation, the internationally renowned music superstar (nee Anthony Williams III) talked candidly about his homosexuality, his failed marriage and his thoughts on the black church. As expected, when someone touches upon such a taboo subject, it strikes a chord among others. But as the multiple Stellar Award-winning virtuoso tells it, in his very own words, it was a lot more than he ever bargained for. Below is Tonex's exclusive testimony to BlackVoices.com:
Okay, so now since it's really gone mainstream, there is really no backpedaling is there?
Friday, September 25, 2009
What's going on this weekend?
Hey party people! I'll start your lineup with a few highlights:
Velcro Pygmies perform Friday at H2O, 6499 Veterans Parkway. Music starts at 10 p.m. Tickets are $20 at the door. Sample the band's music here.
Saturday, there's a disco party at Flip Flops, 1111 Broadway. Classic Addict entertains. Cover is $5 and there's a $100 prize for best costume.
Also on Saturday, The Oasis (1107 Broadway) hosts a going-away party for the 3rd Heavy Brigade Combat Team. Last Comes Gunfire, Double Barrel Democracy and Thrill of a Gunfight perform. Music starts at 9 p.m. Drink specials for military, no cover.
Here's your full schedule:
FRIDAY
• Peggy Jenkins and the Bizness with special guest Marshall Ruffin, 9:30 p.m. The Loft, $5. 706-596-8141.
• The Last Rodeo Band, 9 p.m. VFW Post 665 (Victory Drive), $5. 706-687-6656.
• Filthy Gamble, 8 p.m. Daileys, $5. 706-320-3353.
• Whisky Bent, 10 p.m. Scruffy Murphy’s, $5. 706-322-3460.
• Attention System, The Drownout, 10 p.m. SoHo Bar & Grill, $5. 706-568-3316.
• Claiborne & Friends, 9 p.m. Belloo’s, $5. 706-494-1584.
• Brannon Tharpe, 9 p.m. Fountain City Coffee, free. 706-494-6659.
• Jimi Jam and the Big Fun, 9 p.m. Del Ranch Bar & Grill, $5. 334-297-9177.
• Chris Collins Band, 9 p.m. Saloon Oyster Bar & Steakhouse, free. 706-568-8400.
SATURDAY
• Oblio with Thieves and Pastors, 9 p.m. The Loft, $5. 706-596-8141.
• The Last Rodeo Band, 9 p.m. VFW Post 665 (Victory Drive), $5. 706-687-6656.
• Ophir Drive, 9 p.m. Fountain City Coffee, free. 706-494-6659.
• DNA, 10 p.m. Scruffy Murphy’s, $5. 706-322-3460.
• Claiborne & Friends, 9 p.m. Belloo’s, $5. 706-494-1584.
• Neal Lucas Band, 10 p.m. SoHo Bar & Grill, $5. 706-568-3316.
• Jimi Jam and the Big Fun, 9 p.m. Del Ranch Bar & Grill, $5. 334-297-9177.
• Filthy Gamble, 8 p.m. Daileys, $5. 706-320-3353.
Velcro Pygmies perform Friday at H2O, 6499 Veterans Parkway. Music starts at 10 p.m. Tickets are $20 at the door. Sample the band's music here.
Saturday, there's a disco party at Flip Flops, 1111 Broadway. Classic Addict entertains. Cover is $5 and there's a $100 prize for best costume.
Also on Saturday, The Oasis (1107 Broadway) hosts a going-away party for the 3rd Heavy Brigade Combat Team. Last Comes Gunfire, Double Barrel Democracy and Thrill of a Gunfight perform. Music starts at 9 p.m. Drink specials for military, no cover.
Here's your full schedule:
FRIDAY
• Peggy Jenkins and the Bizness with special guest Marshall Ruffin, 9:30 p.m. The Loft, $5. 706-596-8141.
• The Last Rodeo Band, 9 p.m. VFW Post 665 (Victory Drive), $5. 706-687-6656.
• Filthy Gamble, 8 p.m. Daileys, $5. 706-320-3353.
• Whisky Bent, 10 p.m. Scruffy Murphy’s, $5. 706-322-3460.
• Attention System, The Drownout, 10 p.m. SoHo Bar & Grill, $5. 706-568-3316.
• Claiborne & Friends, 9 p.m. Belloo’s, $5. 706-494-1584.
• Brannon Tharpe, 9 p.m. Fountain City Coffee, free. 706-494-6659.
• Jimi Jam and the Big Fun, 9 p.m. Del Ranch Bar & Grill, $5. 334-297-9177.
• Chris Collins Band, 9 p.m. Saloon Oyster Bar & Steakhouse, free. 706-568-8400.
SATURDAY
• Oblio with Thieves and Pastors, 9 p.m. The Loft, $5. 706-596-8141.
• The Last Rodeo Band, 9 p.m. VFW Post 665 (Victory Drive), $5. 706-687-6656.
• Ophir Drive, 9 p.m. Fountain City Coffee, free. 706-494-6659.
• DNA, 10 p.m. Scruffy Murphy’s, $5. 706-322-3460.
• Claiborne & Friends, 9 p.m. Belloo’s, $5. 706-494-1584.
• Neal Lucas Band, 10 p.m. SoHo Bar & Grill, $5. 706-568-3316.
• Jimi Jam and the Big Fun, 9 p.m. Del Ranch Bar & Grill, $5. 334-297-9177.
• Filthy Gamble, 8 p.m. Daileys, $5. 706-320-3353.
You make me sick
I feel a little guilty for applying hand sanitizer after you pour my wine.
And I know it's not compassionate to calculate my odds of catching the flu mid-kiss.
But I can't help it. You're sick, and I'm selfish.
Sound familiar?
No matter how much you love somebody, it's not always pleasant to encounter his/her infirm alter ego for the first time.
You vow to be kind, but an unexpected deluge of patient requests -- everything from specialty soup to sinus-friendly lighting -- can be grating.
Not to mention the fact that your honey is contagious. And that's not really sexy.
The anecdote at the beginning of this post is an exaggeration. I love channeling my inner Florence Nightingale and doting on a sick boyfriend. Though I do plan an exit strategy for the moment when "sick" and "grumpy" coincide.
Meanwhile, when I'm sick, I prefer to be completely alone.
Unless my illness includes a phlegm-induced raspy voice. That totally turns guys on.
And I know it's not compassionate to calculate my odds of catching the flu mid-kiss.
But I can't help it. You're sick, and I'm selfish.
Sound familiar?
No matter how much you love somebody, it's not always pleasant to encounter his/her infirm alter ego for the first time.
You vow to be kind, but an unexpected deluge of patient requests -- everything from specialty soup to sinus-friendly lighting -- can be grating.
Not to mention the fact that your honey is contagious. And that's not really sexy.
The anecdote at the beginning of this post is an exaggeration. I love channeling my inner Florence Nightingale and doting on a sick boyfriend. Though I do plan an exit strategy for the moment when "sick" and "grumpy" coincide.
Meanwhile, when I'm sick, I prefer to be completely alone.
Unless my illness includes a phlegm-induced raspy voice. That totally turns guys on.
JAY-Z AINT SCARED OF 50 CENT
Jay-Z was so angry at the residents in his apartment building who objected to his who moving there that he deliberately tries to antagonize them as often as possible.
"My neighbors didn't want me in the building, it was a whole big thing, it was really racist. They didn't want me in so I bought the biggest place there," he told BBC radio's Trevor Nelson. "They have a board and voting is based on how much of the property share you have so I have the biggest share and I go down just to vote on things I don't care about just to tick 'em off.
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Thursday, September 24, 2009
Nicole Spence: He Went Limp Noodle!
So a good friend of mine recently started digging in the crates, and began messing with an old flame!
These 2 dated years ago pretty heavy actually, ish happened and they parted ways. But now he's back! The sex that she remembers was pretty fiery! Although she does recall having to initiate some of their sexual encounters. But it was still pretty Calente!
He's about 8years older than her, so she was looking forward to the whole " daddy" experience. Unfortunately things "down south" haven't been quite the way she remembers, while talking over Patron shots, she asked me if she should give him the ol Heave hoe!
Here's the skinny!
Dr Boyce: Did BET Step Over the Line with “Skank Robbers”?
by Dr. Boyce Watkins, Your Black World
During the BET Awards, Martin Lawrence and Jamie Foxx did a skit called "Skank Robbers," which you can watch below. Some have argued that the video goes over the top, producing stereotypical images of black women to the point of being offensive. Referring to them as "skanks" was enough to draw the ire of many African Americans, but there was also a point in the video in which the narrator says, "From the producers of 'Planet of the Apes'."
This video leads to the following questions as it pertains to BET:1) Who's making the decisions? I'd love to see what thought process goes into deciding to make R. Kelly your keynote performer right after he is accused of creating child pornography, or having Lil Wayne sing about wanting to have sex with every girl in the world while underage girls are dancing on stage. I don't hate BET, and I've done a great deal of work with them in the past, but I would like very much for them to explain to the public exactly how they operate.
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Baby pictures
He called it his awkward phase. I called it a relationship milestone.
Either way, there was a bowl cut involved.
You know you've fallen hard when you want to see your boyfriend's baby photos. Glamour describes the phenomenon here.
On the surface, the scene's appeal doesn't make sense.
You're on a crowded couch staring at faded images of people you don't know and parties you weren't invited to. Often, there are illegible captions involved.
Somehow, this becomes one of the most romantic moments of your life.
Why?
If nothing else, it marks a link between past and present -- confirmation that someone likes you enough to let you see his short-lived goth phase.
And, if you're really lucky, a bowl cut.
Either way, there was a bowl cut involved.
You know you've fallen hard when you want to see your boyfriend's baby photos. Glamour describes the phenomenon here.
On the surface, the scene's appeal doesn't make sense.
You're on a crowded couch staring at faded images of people you don't know and parties you weren't invited to. Often, there are illegible captions involved.
Somehow, this becomes one of the most romantic moments of your life.
Why?
If nothing else, it marks a link between past and present -- confirmation that someone likes you enough to let you see his short-lived goth phase.
And, if you're really lucky, a bowl cut.
Get over it?
Your friend opens her mouth, and immediately you know how this discussion will play out.
You've heard it so many times, you could recite it backwards and blindfolded. With your hands tied behind your back.
She will take a bite of her sandwich, twirl her hair and wipe unprompted tears from her eyes.
"What's wrong?" you ask.
You feign confusion, but you know the answer. She misses her former flame, the one whose back was decorated with a tacky "rednecks rule" tattoo.
In just a minute, she will tell you that, and you will feed her insatiable appetite with the usual "you were too good for him" and "everything happens for a reason."
You know the script well. Because you've been performing it for 10 months.
Here, one woman writes about how she's still angry about being dumped -- one year after her relationship ended.
The tendency is understandable.
Now more than ever, I think we're taught to correlate our post-breakup emotions with a grieving process.
One day in bed is no longer enough. There's the self-help book phase. The personal wellness phase. The therapy phase.
It reaches a point where, when it comes to progress, you are your own worst enemy.
In the face of a breakup, what's a fair deadline for when you should be "over it"?
You've heard it so many times, you could recite it backwards and blindfolded. With your hands tied behind your back.
She will take a bite of her sandwich, twirl her hair and wipe unprompted tears from her eyes.
"What's wrong?" you ask.
You feign confusion, but you know the answer. She misses her former flame, the one whose back was decorated with a tacky "rednecks rule" tattoo.
In just a minute, she will tell you that, and you will feed her insatiable appetite with the usual "you were too good for him" and "everything happens for a reason."
You know the script well. Because you've been performing it for 10 months.
Here, one woman writes about how she's still angry about being dumped -- one year after her relationship ended.
The tendency is understandable.
Now more than ever, I think we're taught to correlate our post-breakup emotions with a grieving process.
One day in bed is no longer enough. There's the self-help book phase. The personal wellness phase. The therapy phase.
It reaches a point where, when it comes to progress, you are your own worst enemy.
In the face of a breakup, what's a fair deadline for when you should be "over it"?
What's going on tonight?
Hey Columbus-area partiers! Here are your Thursday night entertainment options:
• Open mike, 8 p.m. Fountain City Coffee, free. 706-494-6659.
• Wes Loper Band, 9 p.m. Shanty Shack, free. 706-507-3418.
• Gary Parmer, 9 p.m. Belloo’s, free. 706-494-1584.
• Whisky Bent, 10 p.m. Scruffy Murphy’s, free. 706-322-3460.
• Uncrowned, 10 p.m. SoHo Bar & Grill, $5 (free for military). 706-568-3316.
• Open mike, 8 p.m. Fountain City Coffee, free. 706-494-6659.
• Wes Loper Band, 9 p.m. Shanty Shack, free. 706-507-3418.
• Gary Parmer, 9 p.m. Belloo’s, free. 706-494-1584.
• Whisky Bent, 10 p.m. Scruffy Murphy’s, free. 706-322-3460.
• Uncrowned, 10 p.m. SoHo Bar & Grill, $5 (free for military). 706-568-3316.
NEW BOOK ABOUT OBAMA’S SWAGG
A new book about the First Couple's marriage claims Michelle Obama gave her husband the silent treatment at one point during the presidential campaign, and that he had eyes for a young woman working for the campaign.
In "Barack and Michelle: Portrait of an American Marriage" (William Morrow), Christopher Andersen claims brazen women on the campaign trail "pushed their bodies up against his, slipped phone numbers into his pockets" and whispered lewd suggestions in his ear as he traveled across the country running for president.
THIS BLIND GOVERNOR TWITTERS
New York's Gov. David Paterson is getting support from a local NAACP branch amid reports that the White House and top Democrats in the state want a stronger candidate at the top of the 2010 ticket.
A branch of the NAACP in Islip says it and other groups are planning a rally to support Paterson, who grew up partly on Long Island. They want to show respect for the state’s first black and disabled governor and urge Democrats to let him deal with the fiscal crisis, not politics.
The Rev. Al Sharpton weighed in Monday on his Twitter page, urging Democrats to settle the issue so that what he calls “reactionary forces” can’t win back the seats of power held by Democrats.
MCKNIGHT IS DOING IT BIG!!!
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When R&B crooner Brian McKnight first hit the charts and radio waves in 1992, music fans were not only impressed with his vocal ability, but also his songwriting talent, and his skills as a multi-instrumentalist (he can play nine instruments). Clearly marked as his modus operandi, McKnight has maintained his music career by multi-tasking.
OLD NFL PLAYER NEW FIGHTER
Former NFL Pro Bowl running back Herschel Walker has followed up his run on NBC's "Celebrity Apprentice" with a new contract to become a Mixed Martial Arts fighter.
Promoter Strikeforce announced that the one-time Heisman trophy winner – and fifth degree black belt in Taekwondo – has signed a multi-fight contract and will begin a 12-week training camp in California next month.
MJ DOCTOR HAS TO SHOW UP IN COURT
Prosecutors investigating Michael Jackson’s death have ordered the girlfriend of the singer’s personal doctor to testify before a grand jury this week, according to reports.
Nicole Alvarez, the girlfriend of Dr. Conrad Murray, who remains the focus of a manslaughter investigation into the pop star's death, has been called as a witness "in an investigation pending before said grand jury," according to a subpoena obtained by ABC News. Jackson's June 25 death was ruled a homicide caused by drugs administered in Jackson's mansion by Murray, his personal physician.
MICHAEL JACKSON HITTING THE BIG SCREEN
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The Michael Jackson movie "This Is It" -- based on footage from concert rehearsals before his death in June – will begin showing in movie theaters the night before its official Oct. 28 release.
Many of the "advance screenings" will take place in about 2000 locations as early as 9 p.m. PT on Oct. 27. In Los Angeles, a premiere will kick off at 6 p.m. Oct. 27 at the Nokia Theatre in downtown L.A.
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LAMAR ODOM IS DUMB AS HELL..THIS SUNDAY
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People magazine is quoting "multiple sources" who say that Khloe Kardashian and Los Angeles Lakers star Lamar Odom – her boyfriend of only a month – are to be married this weekend in Los Angeles.
The ceremony, to be held late Sunday at the L.A.-area home of music manager Irving Azoff, is being thrown together so quickly that guests are being notified by phone that formal invitations will arrive this week, the sources add.
THE QUEEN IS ON TOP
Keep a Child Alive's 2009 Black Ball, an annual benefit to raise funds dedicated to providing life-saving treatment and support to children and families affected by HIV/AIDS, will take place on Oct. 15 in New York.
Keep a Child Alive Co-Founder, Alicia Keys, will serve as host and musical director of the Black Ball with fellow Global Ambassadors Iman and Padma Lakshmi as co-hosts. Last year’s Black Ball honoree Queen Latifah will serve as emcee.
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Wednesday, September 23, 2009
The more you know
Technology, I owe you an apology.
For years, I thought you were only good for pop-up ads, spam e-mail and expletive-inducing shutdowns.
But I recently learned your real purpose: You're here to help me date!
How else do you explain this new iPhone app, which includes a "Sleaze Detector" feature?
Then, there's Gelato, a new online dating service that shows users updates from your Facebook profile, Twitter, Nextflix queue, Pandora stations and Flickr photos.
So yes, as Nerve's Scanner accurately observes, it's nice that technology is doing our stalking work for us.
At this rate, surprising disclosures mid-relationship should be rare.
But I'm not convinced.
Has technology -- rich in background checks and interest surveys -- really made today's daters better judges of character?
For years, I thought you were only good for pop-up ads, spam e-mail and expletive-inducing shutdowns.
But I recently learned your real purpose: You're here to help me date!
How else do you explain this new iPhone app, which includes a "Sleaze Detector" feature?
Then, there's Gelato, a new online dating service that shows users updates from your Facebook profile, Twitter, Nextflix queue, Pandora stations and Flickr photos.
So yes, as Nerve's Scanner accurately observes, it's nice that technology is doing our stalking work for us.
At this rate, surprising disclosures mid-relationship should be rare.
But I'm not convinced.
Has technology -- rich in background checks and interest surveys -- really made today's daters better judges of character?
Honey, I'm moving to China
Here's another reason why the economy is ruining your love life:
A smaller pool of jobs means more people are applying for positions outside their geographical comfort zone. And that, my friends, translates into an influx in long-distance relationships.
Or, if you prefer, a higher likelihood you'll get stuck with this line:
"I love you, but this job was too hard to resist."
I think most of us in quasi-stable romantic relationships think we take priority over any career offer, no matter how lucrative it is.
Sometimes, we overestimate our coolness.
This Wall Street Journal article talks about couples whose job search results divided them geographically.
It points to married people who, because of lousy job options, ended up living in different cities.
Maybe it's a functioning setup in some cases, but I know many people who wouldn't stand it.
Some might say an essential part of marriage is living together, even amid a bad economy.
Weigh in: If you're married -- and want to stay that way -- is it weird to take a job five states away from your spouse?
A smaller pool of jobs means more people are applying for positions outside their geographical comfort zone. And that, my friends, translates into an influx in long-distance relationships.
Or, if you prefer, a higher likelihood you'll get stuck with this line:
"I love you, but this job was too hard to resist."
I think most of us in quasi-stable romantic relationships think we take priority over any career offer, no matter how lucrative it is.
Sometimes, we overestimate our coolness.
This Wall Street Journal article talks about couples whose job search results divided them geographically.
It points to married people who, because of lousy job options, ended up living in different cities.
Maybe it's a functioning setup in some cases, but I know many people who wouldn't stand it.
Some might say an essential part of marriage is living together, even amid a bad economy.
Weigh in: If you're married -- and want to stay that way -- is it weird to take a job five states away from your spouse?
Khloe Kardashian wedding
We've all dropped our jaws at reports that Khloe Kardashian is getting married Sunday -- after knowing beau Lamar Odom for about only six weeks.
The celebrity world is a universe of its own, but I've seen month-long relationships turn into marriage in "real life" as well.
In those situations, everyone's first tendency is to say you can't possibly really know somebody after only one month.
For me, that's certainly true. It takes me half a year just to remember a boyfriend's middle name.
We're critical of spur of the moment marriages.
But when a couple celebrates a 50th anniversary and tells a story of how they got hitched after three weeks, we "ooh," "aah" and point to a belief in love at first sight.
We like to think we're the ultimate authorities when it comes to relationship wisdom. Sometimes, we get satisfaction out of believing our advice is central to averting a love casualty.
But the truth is, when your friend has decided to value heart over head, your advice -- no matter how rational it sounds -- will go in one ear and out the other.
Because by then, your friend has entered a place where gooey emotions overrule pro and con lists. It's a place where "I love you" gets priority over "we should really talk about this."
And strangely, as much as outsiders hate to admit it, it's also a place where some of the best decisions are made.
Emphasis on the "some."
The celebrity world is a universe of its own, but I've seen month-long relationships turn into marriage in "real life" as well.
In those situations, everyone's first tendency is to say you can't possibly really know somebody after only one month.
For me, that's certainly true. It takes me half a year just to remember a boyfriend's middle name.
We're critical of spur of the moment marriages.
But when a couple celebrates a 50th anniversary and tells a story of how they got hitched after three weeks, we "ooh," "aah" and point to a belief in love at first sight.
We like to think we're the ultimate authorities when it comes to relationship wisdom. Sometimes, we get satisfaction out of believing our advice is central to averting a love casualty.
But the truth is, when your friend has decided to value heart over head, your advice -- no matter how rational it sounds -- will go in one ear and out the other.
Because by then, your friend has entered a place where gooey emotions overrule pro and con lists. It's a place where "I love you" gets priority over "we should really talk about this."
And strangely, as much as outsiders hate to admit it, it's also a place where some of the best decisions are made.
Emphasis on the "some."
Nicole Spence on Swingers Clubs
by Nicole Spence , Your Black World
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So I was on the way to school talking on the phone with one of my girlfriends. I brought up a previous conversation that I had with my friend Jack. Just recently Jack invited me to go with him to check out this Sex club in Brooklyn. Jack knows damn well that I won’t be partaking in any of the reckless behavior, but we both figured it would be juicy material for me to write about, if I wasn’t such a damn fraidy cat, and I actually had the balls to enter such a place.
The crazy shit is nasty people are everywhere, as I’m walking and chit chatting to my surprise this clean cut black guy over hears my conversation. As I attempt to cross the street he stops me. Now I’m thinking “ Oh you want my number?” But No! He tells me “ I didn’t mean to over hear your conversation, but I did. My girlfriend and I are looking for a new Sex club, can you tell me the name of the one you were just speaking about?” Get the fuck outta here! You swing? He begins to ask if I’m apart of the “community” I say, "No" followed by a very loud weird laugh. Lol
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
Bad engagement photos
Please destroy this blog if I ever post a photo that includes an oak tree, a fiance and matching polo shirts.
Why? Because that means I've committed one of my biggest relationship sins: succumbing to the lure of engagement photos.
I don't have a ring on my finger.
But that doesn't preclude me from having nightmares about engaging in a faux game of peek-a-boo while a photographer offers an encouraging "smile!" in the background.
I first learned of engagement photos via Facebook, when there appeared to be a deluge of relationship bliss among my college friends.
Before I knew it, albums seemed to appear every day. There never was just one, either.
Users would post "Engagement Pics 1," followed by "Engagement Pics 2," followed by "Last Engagement Pics...I Swear!"
Then, just when you think it's over, the phantom finale appears: "Oops...I Forgot to Post These."
I don't oppose the concept behind engagement photos. They just always look so cheesy.
Honestly, how often does the average couple really coordinate outfits and link hands under a gazebo?
AND WHY IS THERE ALWAYS AN OAK TREE INVOLVED?
For answers to those questions, check out this gallery of awesomely bad engagement photos.
Remember: The instant I blog about buying matching sweaters for a Saturday photo shoot, just say "cheesy."
(via The Frisky)
Why? Because that means I've committed one of my biggest relationship sins: succumbing to the lure of engagement photos.
I don't have a ring on my finger.
But that doesn't preclude me from having nightmares about engaging in a faux game of peek-a-boo while a photographer offers an encouraging "smile!" in the background.
I first learned of engagement photos via Facebook, when there appeared to be a deluge of relationship bliss among my college friends.
Before I knew it, albums seemed to appear every day. There never was just one, either.
Users would post "Engagement Pics 1," followed by "Engagement Pics 2," followed by "Last Engagement Pics...I Swear!"
Then, just when you think it's over, the phantom finale appears: "Oops...I Forgot to Post These."
I don't oppose the concept behind engagement photos. They just always look so cheesy.
Honestly, how often does the average couple really coordinate outfits and link hands under a gazebo?
AND WHY IS THERE ALWAYS AN OAK TREE INVOLVED?
For answers to those questions, check out this gallery of awesomely bad engagement photos.
Remember: The instant I blog about buying matching sweaters for a Saturday photo shoot, just say "cheesy."
(via The Frisky)
Free Tuesday shows!
Hey Columbus-area partiers! Check out these free Tuesday party options:
The Shanty Shack, 4475 Warm Springs Road, hosts a performance by local party act the M&M Band. Music starts at 7 p.m. Call 706-507-3418.
The Shanty Shack, 4475 Warm Springs Road, hosts a performance by local party act the M&M Band. Music starts at 7 p.m. Call 706-507-3418.
Also, the local rockers from Poanna perform at SoHo Bar & Grill, 5751 Milgen Road. Music starts at 9 p.m. Call 706-568-3316.
Both shows are open to guests 21 and older.
The Talk
Monday's season premiere of "How I Met Your Mother" focused on the importance of defining your relationship.
That definition usually comes via The Talk, an uncomfortable face-to-face conversation that usually begins, "So, where do you think this relationship is going?"
In many cases, the resolution is a decision to officially call each other "boyfriend" and "girlfriend."
Would you believe I've never had The Talk?
I've always just fallen into my relationships, and gotten to the point where it's like, "OK, I've bought you enough meals. I'd hope you'd consider me your girlfriend."
It's not a fail-safe strategy.
I'll never forget being heartbroken when a guy I'd been seeing for three months spontaneously went out with another girl. So much for a mutual understanding of "serious."
And yes, I've always been a little jealous of those girls whose significant others ask them to enter the realm of "boyfriend and girlfriend" with some grand romantic gesture.
Even among 20-somethings, some "will you be my girlfriend?" gestures rival marriage proposals.
Tell me: Does every successful romantic relationship require The Talk?
That definition usually comes via The Talk, an uncomfortable face-to-face conversation that usually begins, "So, where do you think this relationship is going?"
In many cases, the resolution is a decision to officially call each other "boyfriend" and "girlfriend."
Would you believe I've never had The Talk?
I've always just fallen into my relationships, and gotten to the point where it's like, "OK, I've bought you enough meals. I'd hope you'd consider me your girlfriend."
It's not a fail-safe strategy.
I'll never forget being heartbroken when a guy I'd been seeing for three months spontaneously went out with another girl. So much for a mutual understanding of "serious."
And yes, I've always been a little jealous of those girls whose significant others ask them to enter the realm of "boyfriend and girlfriend" with some grand romantic gesture.
Even among 20-somethings, some "will you be my girlfriend?" gestures rival marriage proposals.
Tell me: Does every successful romantic relationship require The Talk?
Tyra Banks: A Super Model or a Business Model? You Be the Judge
Think Tyra Banks is just a pretty face? Watch this video to find out that there’s more to Tyra than meets the eye.
Did BET Step over the Line with “Skank Robbers”?
Click here to watch the clip. Were black women being disrespected by this BET video or was this just good old fashioned fun?
Monday, September 21, 2009
Reduce, reuse, recycle
The heat of your romantic passion is gone, and your former fling has acquired the coolness factor of newsprint and aluminum cans.
Wait, that's a good thing!
Well, maybe.
Here, Glamour asks if it's OK to recycle your ex.
In the context of relationships, recycling means setting an ex up with one of your friends.
On the surface, the concept makes sense: The fact that your relationship didn't work out hardly makes your former partner undesirable. Maybe you had a short romance that ended simply because of lifestyle differences.
You know your ex well. You know your friend well. This seems like it should work out.
But I say it's a recipe for desire.
As the aforementioned Glamour piece notes, there's an incredible potential for jealousy -- no matter how much you swear you're "totally over" the former relationship.
And I don't know about you, but if a good-intentioned friend tried to set me up with her ex, I'd throw back an angry line about sloppy seconds.
She'd call it recycling. I'd call it the "he wasn't good enough for me, but he's perfect for you" school of matchmaking.
Thoughts?
Wait, that's a good thing!
Well, maybe.
Here, Glamour asks if it's OK to recycle your ex.
In the context of relationships, recycling means setting an ex up with one of your friends.
On the surface, the concept makes sense: The fact that your relationship didn't work out hardly makes your former partner undesirable. Maybe you had a short romance that ended simply because of lifestyle differences.
You know your ex well. You know your friend well. This seems like it should work out.
But I say it's a recipe for desire.
As the aforementioned Glamour piece notes, there's an incredible potential for jealousy -- no matter how much you swear you're "totally over" the former relationship.
And I don't know about you, but if a good-intentioned friend tried to set me up with her ex, I'd throw back an angry line about sloppy seconds.
She'd call it recycling. I'd call it the "he wasn't good enough for me, but he's perfect for you" school of matchmaking.
Thoughts?
You intimidate me
As we stood against the gymnasium wall during slow dances, my high school friends and I shrugged our shoulders and uttered the line that kept us out of the "dateless and desperate" realm:
"Oh well. They're just intimidated by our sexiness."
We said it half in jest, but half in a belief it was true.
It was comforting to believe that in romance, the problem wasn't us. It was them.
We reasoned our greatest problem was being too poised, too confident, too good looking.
A decade has passed since I endured the torture of high school dances. But the "he's intimidated by me" line still thrives in the dating world.
This video asks if men are intimidated by strong, independent women. (YourTango via The Frisky)
Intimidation might be a factor in the initial asking-out process, but I can't accept it as the sole justification for a breakup.
More than anything, I think the line is a way for the dumpee to make himself/herself feel better about a breakup.
Tell me: Have you ever ended a relationship because you were intimidated by a partner's success?
"Oh well. They're just intimidated by our sexiness."
We said it half in jest, but half in a belief it was true.
It was comforting to believe that in romance, the problem wasn't us. It was them.
We reasoned our greatest problem was being too poised, too confident, too good looking.
A decade has passed since I endured the torture of high school dances. But the "he's intimidated by me" line still thrives in the dating world.
This video asks if men are intimidated by strong, independent women. (YourTango via The Frisky)
Intimidation might be a factor in the initial asking-out process, but I can't accept it as the sole justification for a breakup.
More than anything, I think the line is a way for the dumpee to make himself/herself feel better about a breakup.
Tell me: Have you ever ended a relationship because you were intimidated by a partner's success?
Sunday, September 20, 2009
My Groundhog Day
If you're really lucky, you get three days that you wouldn't mind repeating.
Two of those are major life events -- say, your wedding. The birth of a child. A life-changing job promotion.
For your last relivable day, you get to pick a random calendar date that is spectacular in its ordinariness.
Mine came Saturday.
I was up by 8 a.m. to run a 5K. I ate a turkey sandwich. Went to Walmart. Drank a glass of wine that is banned in Alabama.
There was a nice dinner involved, but the steak alone didn't make the day wonderful. Trust me: When I'm upset, I can find a way to sulk through even the ritziest meal.
Saturday contained no elaborate surprises, no unprompted shopping sprees, no bold declarations of emotion.
But at the end of the night, the sensation hit:
"I want to do this day again.'"
Of course, I couldn't. The clocked ticked, the calendar flipped and that was that.
I guess I can't complain too much.
Most of us, myself included, navigate life under a cloud of fear urging us to stop once we realize or shortcomings.
Or fast forward when it's apparent that a challenge is on the way.
If you find yourself in the company of someone who makes you want to hit "replay" -- even just once -- you're doing pretty well.
Two of those are major life events -- say, your wedding. The birth of a child. A life-changing job promotion.
For your last relivable day, you get to pick a random calendar date that is spectacular in its ordinariness.
Mine came Saturday.
I was up by 8 a.m. to run a 5K. I ate a turkey sandwich. Went to Walmart. Drank a glass of wine that is banned in Alabama.
There was a nice dinner involved, but the steak alone didn't make the day wonderful. Trust me: When I'm upset, I can find a way to sulk through even the ritziest meal.
Saturday contained no elaborate surprises, no unprompted shopping sprees, no bold declarations of emotion.
But at the end of the night, the sensation hit:
"I want to do this day again.'"
Of course, I couldn't. The clocked ticked, the calendar flipped and that was that.
I guess I can't complain too much.
Most of us, myself included, navigate life under a cloud of fear urging us to stop once we realize or shortcomings.
Or fast forward when it's apparent that a challenge is on the way.
If you find yourself in the company of someone who makes you want to hit "replay" -- even just once -- you're doing pretty well.
Mayweather: He’s Still the Man
Money came back with a guarantee. Floyd Mayweather Jr. told the world he was still its best boxer despite taking 21 months off, and he backed up every boast with every jab in an impressive victory.
Although next time out, hopefully he’ll pick on somebody his own size.
Mayweather overpowered the smaller, lighter Juan Manuel Marquez for an unanimous decision Saturday night, maintaining his perfect record in his comeback from retirement.
Mayweather knocked down Marquez in the second round and then peppered him with countless damaging shots to remain unbeaten (40-0, 25 KOs). Still, his impressive effort couldn’t be viewed without weighing the obvious disadvantages in height and strength faced by the talented Marquez, a 130-pounder just 18 months ago who moved up two weight classes for this once-in-a-career payday at the MGM Grand Garden.
Saturday, September 19, 2009
Well-Known Publicist Gives PR Advice to Kanye West and Serena Williams
Karen Taylor-Bass, a well-known publicist, decided to go out of her way to give some PR advice on how Serena and Kanye can save their damaged public images. Read what she had to say:
Kanye West Latest Ego Trip
“Last night, I was watching the VMA with my 9 year old son, as he was packing his books for school. As I was explaining to him the significance of the MTV Awards, as a former Music Publicist, the mood shifted from this is cool to ... this is crazy.
I was shocked by Kanye West's latest ego tripping antics. Lets be real, that moment with Taylor Swift versus Beyonce, was all about Kanye getting some "shine" aka spotlight. Countless times we excuse Kanye for his childish, ego- "me" moments, however, this time his friends should really answer and heed Madonna's call during her tribute to Michael Jackson. Perhaps, Kanye needs a reality check and someone to talk to? Maybe, its a cry for help? What I do know is that it's not okay to take to social media an issue an apology time and time again ... you were man enough to take the mic from Taylor Swift, be man enough to publicly apologize.
Kanye you need to take a time-out, and re-brand your image.. We want to believe in your brilliance, but not like this. “
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Serena Williams' Costly Moment
“Serena Williams allowed poor judgment to take center stage on Saturday at the United States Open which possibly cost her the title, endorsements, fans, and most importantly, a damaged BRAND . The angry black woman as a brand is not palatable for mainstream media. Upon seeing the tape, I must say Serena Williams got real 'hood' with the line judge and her behavior was out of pocket.
Athletes, especially Black athletes, must remember this is a business and your brand is your business. If you are known for grace, dignity, and being a champion, well display that at all times. John McEnroe got away with many antics during his reign, however, with the advent of technology -- every emotion, word and behavior is captured for the world to see. And sadly, Black athletes are judged by a different standard. All is not lost as it relates to damage control -- issue a mea culpa immediately to the officials, fans, Kim Clijsters, etc., and show the world all champions are human with flaws with moments.”
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Friday, September 18, 2009
What's going on this weekend?
Hey partiers! A quick highlight: Friday, the Budweiser Battle of the Bands wraps up at H2O. Final acts are Holdcell, Thousand Watt Halo, Therapy and Jasper Drive. Winner gets $2,000.
Doors at 8 p.m., music at 10 p.m. Cover is $5. Call 706-327-9700.
Also, if you're looking for a new party spot where you can watch Saturday's UFC Fight, try Scruffy Murphy's, 1037 Broadway. The downtown bar now shows the pay-per-view portion of the fight on its multiple HDTV flat screens.
Pre-show coverage begins at 9 p.m., and cover is $10, which includes free hot wings throughout the fight. Pipers Down performs after the fight (probably around 12:30 a.m.).
In addition to the usual hot spots, don't forget the Saloon Oyster Bar & Steakhouse (6005 Macon Road) also airs the fights. Call 706-568-8400.
Here's the rest of your lineup:
FRIDAY
• Peggy Jenkins and the Bizness, 9 p.m. The Loft, $5. 706-596-8141.
• Claiborne & Friends, 9 p.m. Belloo’s, $5. 706-494-1584.
• Boneheadz, 9 p.m. Del Ranch Bar & Grill, $5. 334-297-9177.
• Pipers Down, 10 p.m. Scruffy Murphy’s, $5. 706-322-3460.
• SubCam, A Vacant Soul, 10 p.m. SoHo Bar & Grill, $5. 706-568-3316.
• Andres T, 9 p.m. Fountain City Coffee, free. 706-494-6659.
• The Last Rodeo Band, 9 p.m. VFW Post 665 (Victory Drive), $5. 706-687-6656.
• Dueling pianos, 10 p.m. The Vault, $5. 706-653-8277.
• Sum Ever After, 8 p.m. Daileys, $5. 706-320-3353.
SATURDAY
• Spent, 8 p.m. Daileys, $5. 706-320-3353.
• Tyler Reeve, 9 p.m. The Loft, $5. 706-596-8141.
• Misfortune 500, Lamb Handler, 10 p.m. SoHo Bar & Grill, $5. 706-568-3316.
• Claiborne & Friends, 9 p.m. Belloo’s, $5. 706-494-1584.
• Boneheadz, 9 p.m. Del Ranch Bar & Grill, $5. 334-297-9177.
• Ty Izumi, 9 p.m. Fountain City Coffee, free. 706-494-6659.
• The Last Rodeo Band, 9 p.m. VFW Post 665 (Victory Drive), $5. 706-687-6656.
• Dueling pianos, 10 p.m. The Vault, $5. 706-653-8277.
Doors at 8 p.m., music at 10 p.m. Cover is $5. Call 706-327-9700.
Also, if you're looking for a new party spot where you can watch Saturday's UFC Fight, try Scruffy Murphy's, 1037 Broadway. The downtown bar now shows the pay-per-view portion of the fight on its multiple HDTV flat screens.
Pre-show coverage begins at 9 p.m., and cover is $10, which includes free hot wings throughout the fight. Pipers Down performs after the fight (probably around 12:30 a.m.).
In addition to the usual hot spots, don't forget the Saloon Oyster Bar & Steakhouse (6005 Macon Road) also airs the fights. Call 706-568-8400.
Here's the rest of your lineup:
FRIDAY
• Peggy Jenkins and the Bizness, 9 p.m. The Loft, $5. 706-596-8141.
• Claiborne & Friends, 9 p.m. Belloo’s, $5. 706-494-1584.
• Boneheadz, 9 p.m. Del Ranch Bar & Grill, $5. 334-297-9177.
• Pipers Down, 10 p.m. Scruffy Murphy’s, $5. 706-322-3460.
• SubCam, A Vacant Soul, 10 p.m. SoHo Bar & Grill, $5. 706-568-3316.
• Andres T, 9 p.m. Fountain City Coffee, free. 706-494-6659.
• The Last Rodeo Band, 9 p.m. VFW Post 665 (Victory Drive), $5. 706-687-6656.
• Dueling pianos, 10 p.m. The Vault, $5. 706-653-8277.
• Sum Ever After, 8 p.m. Daileys, $5. 706-320-3353.
SATURDAY
• Spent, 8 p.m. Daileys, $5. 706-320-3353.
• Tyler Reeve, 9 p.m. The Loft, $5. 706-596-8141.
• Misfortune 500, Lamb Handler, 10 p.m. SoHo Bar & Grill, $5. 706-568-3316.
• Claiborne & Friends, 9 p.m. Belloo’s, $5. 706-494-1584.
• Boneheadz, 9 p.m. Del Ranch Bar & Grill, $5. 334-297-9177.
• Ty Izumi, 9 p.m. Fountain City Coffee, free. 706-494-6659.
• The Last Rodeo Band, 9 p.m. VFW Post 665 (Victory Drive), $5. 706-687-6656.
• Dueling pianos, 10 p.m. The Vault, $5. 706-653-8277.
Unmarried Week
The entertainment world might be singing "Single Ladies," but acceptance of singledom still has a long way to go.
At least that's the belief behind Unmarried Week, which starts Sunday.
The event, organized by Unmarried America, promotes equality for singles -- a group that constitutes 43 percent of the American population, this article reports.
About a year ago, I did an article about what it's like to be single in Columbus.
Most of the partiers I interviewed said living in the South makes singledom especially difficult, since there's a tendency here to get married fairly early on.
Not only are you surrounded by married 20-something friends, you also sometimes have parents telling you stories about how they met at 15.
That feeds a belief that when you're single, declaring your relationship status has to come with a qualifier.
"Single and looking."
"Single and discouraged."
"Single and ready to mingle."
It makes you lose sight of the value gained by spending time alone.
So if Unmarried Week has a broader lesson, it's that all of us -- regardless of our relationship statuses -- need to stay cognizant of our single selves.
That person who can open a salsa jar, ignite a dance floor party and navigate a tricky set of directions without having to phone a friend.
At least that's the belief behind Unmarried Week, which starts Sunday.
The event, organized by Unmarried America, promotes equality for singles -- a group that constitutes 43 percent of the American population, this article reports.
About a year ago, I did an article about what it's like to be single in Columbus.
Most of the partiers I interviewed said living in the South makes singledom especially difficult, since there's a tendency here to get married fairly early on.
Not only are you surrounded by married 20-something friends, you also sometimes have parents telling you stories about how they met at 15.
That feeds a belief that when you're single, declaring your relationship status has to come with a qualifier.
"Single and looking."
"Single and discouraged."
"Single and ready to mingle."
It makes you lose sight of the value gained by spending time alone.
So if Unmarried Week has a broader lesson, it's that all of us -- regardless of our relationship statuses -- need to stay cognizant of our single selves.
That person who can open a salsa jar, ignite a dance floor party and navigate a tricky set of directions without having to phone a friend.
Thursday, September 17, 2009
Beyonce' Being Sued....
Beyonce' is being sued by Abercrombie & Fitch. The retailer is "claiming her plan for a new fragrance to be launched in early 2010 infringes on its existing trademark. In a federal lawsuit filed on Tuesday in Columbus, Ohio, Abercrombie claims a fragrance under the singer's "Sasha Fierce" label "poses a likelihood of confusion" with the retailer's own "Fierce" brand."
You can catch the whole story here.
You can catch the whole story here.
Some news sources reported today that Beyonce' may change the name of her fragrance to "Sasha" or "Beyonce'" only.
I ain't no hollaback girl
A potential fling sends you an e-mail that begins with "holla." Are you intrigued?
Believe it or not, a sizable share of daters might say yes.
Check out this advice, courtesy of dating Web site OkCupid.
The site studied which words work when you're responding to an online personal ad -- and which words dampen your chances of getting a response.
Among the findings: Online daters are all about unusual greetings.
But wait: I'm referring to something as extreme as "attention future wife."
"Unusual" means phrases like "how's it going," "what's up" and "howdy."
"Holla" wasn't incredibly popular, but it did beat weaker options like "hi," "hey" and "hello."
I start 90 percent of my personal e-mails with "hey sexy." I realize that's a bit uncomfortable for some recipients.
What's your favorite e-mail salutation? And is "holla" really a turn on?
Believe it or not, a sizable share of daters might say yes.
Check out this advice, courtesy of dating Web site OkCupid.
The site studied which words work when you're responding to an online personal ad -- and which words dampen your chances of getting a response.
Among the findings: Online daters are all about unusual greetings.
But wait: I'm referring to something as extreme as "attention future wife."
"Unusual" means phrases like "how's it going," "what's up" and "howdy."
"Holla" wasn't incredibly popular, but it did beat weaker options like "hi," "hey" and "hello."
I start 90 percent of my personal e-mails with "hey sexy." I realize that's a bit uncomfortable for some recipients.
What's your favorite e-mail salutation? And is "holla" really a turn on?
What's going on tonight?
Hey party people! Some of you probably noticed I'm compiling a list of local hot spots where you can watch Saturday's UFC fight. I'll post updates Friday.
In the meantime, here are your Thursday hot spots:
• Open mike, 8 p.m. Fountain City Coffee, free. 706-494-6659.
• Surgestone, 9 p.m. Shanty Shack, free. 706-507-3418.
• Pipers Down, 10 p.m. Scruffy Murphy’s, free. 706-322-3460.
• Steve McRay, 9 p.m. Belloo’s, free. 706-494-1584.
In the meantime, here are your Thursday hot spots:
• Open mike, 8 p.m. Fountain City Coffee, free. 706-494-6659.
• Surgestone, 9 p.m. Shanty Shack, free. 706-507-3418.
• Pipers Down, 10 p.m. Scruffy Murphy’s, free. 706-322-3460.
• Steve McRay, 9 p.m. Belloo’s, free. 706-494-1584.
Tyler Perry Gets Blasted in New Tell-All Book
A new tell all book has emerged and it’s about Tyler Perry and his many rumored relations with females in the industry including Tyra Banks and Oprah. Pop the hood for the details.
A book entitled Tyler, an acronym for T.he one Y.ou L.east E.xpected R.evealed: Uncensored Tell All Book about the REAL man behind the make-up and dress, alleges that the Tyler Perry you see isn’t the Tyler Perry you get. The author is really trying to throw Tyler under the bus and even has audio of him going off about some “undisclosed” female who is feeling him too much saying “the b*tch is crazy.”
Wednesday, September 16, 2009
So much for romance
Be warned, ladies: Admit you hate flowers, and your female friends will react like you just confessed to hurting babies. And hating Taylor Swift.
I love receiving flowers. It's one of the sure-fire ways to my heart.
But I can understand why other women don't like them.
Flowers can be a hassle to carry. You have to monitor the water. Then, of course, there are the disposal concerns when your roses die.
Which is why I simply nod in agreement when another woman tells me she doesn't want flowers from her boyfriend for Valentine's Day.
Others aren't as polite, accusing the flower hater of being anti-romance.
But as this Em & Lo contributor notes, traditionally romantic gestures are sometimes downright uncomfortable. And not as cool as they're cracked up to be.
She writes:
The truth is that I loathe stereotypical romantic gestures. They seem forced and sterile, full of awkward touching and unsure exploration of one another’s uncharted territories. In other words, my perception of romance puts it on par with my annual doctor’s appointment.
Now I might be a fan of flowers, but I'm anything but a hardcore romantic.
Cook me a candlelight dinner...but I will not let you spoon-feed me cheesecake. Also, I don't really enjoy holding hands.
Which stereotypical romantic gesture do you hate most?
I love receiving flowers. It's one of the sure-fire ways to my heart.
But I can understand why other women don't like them.
Flowers can be a hassle to carry. You have to monitor the water. Then, of course, there are the disposal concerns when your roses die.
Which is why I simply nod in agreement when another woman tells me she doesn't want flowers from her boyfriend for Valentine's Day.
Others aren't as polite, accusing the flower hater of being anti-romance.
But as this Em & Lo contributor notes, traditionally romantic gestures are sometimes downright uncomfortable. And not as cool as they're cracked up to be.
She writes:
The truth is that I loathe stereotypical romantic gestures. They seem forced and sterile, full of awkward touching and unsure exploration of one another’s uncharted territories. In other words, my perception of romance puts it on par with my annual doctor’s appointment.
Now I might be a fan of flowers, but I'm anything but a hardcore romantic.
Cook me a candlelight dinner...but I will not let you spoon-feed me cheesecake. Also, I don't really enjoy holding hands.
Which stereotypical romantic gesture do you hate most?
Michael Baisden Gets Real Serious about Healthcare Reform
Although many Americans have seen and heard the insane debate over healthcare, almost no one understands what's going on. This is doubly true for the African American community, who is affected greatly by this debate and its outcomes. Most black bloggers aren't talking about it and black doctors are too busy to inform the community.
Michael Baisden got with Dr. Elaina George, a prominent black physician in the Atlanta area, to break down the public option, healthcare and all related issues in the interview below.During the interview, Dr. George and Baisden answer some important questions:
Click to read.
Relationship lessons from TV
Trust me, I know all about romantic relationships: I watch Antonio Sabato Jr.'s reality dating show.
Is the line convincing? Depends who you ask.
With the influx in dating-centered TV shows, it's likely most of us have sculpted at least some of our attitudes toward love from prime-time programming.
The thought hit me while I watched Tuesday's finale of "More to Love," a plus-size reality TV show that concluded with the female winner assuring curvy girls that, yes, they really can find love.
The show occasionally fell into the trip of cheesy reality TV, but at rare times it really did offer a genuine glimpse into the way we navigate physical perception in relationships.
There's more.
Here, YourTango lists five life and love lessons from "The Office."
Cosmopolitan details love lessons from "Sex and the City."
Which TV show has most affected your view of relationships? Why?
Is the line convincing? Depends who you ask.
With the influx in dating-centered TV shows, it's likely most of us have sculpted at least some of our attitudes toward love from prime-time programming.
The thought hit me while I watched Tuesday's finale of "More to Love," a plus-size reality TV show that concluded with the female winner assuring curvy girls that, yes, they really can find love.
The show occasionally fell into the trip of cheesy reality TV, but at rare times it really did offer a genuine glimpse into the way we navigate physical perception in relationships.
There's more.
Here, YourTango lists five life and love lessons from "The Office."
Cosmopolitan details love lessons from "Sex and the City."
Which TV show has most affected your view of relationships? Why?
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
I hate you!
Given the recent actions of Kanye West...and Serena Williams...and Joe Wilson...it seems like "outburst" is the new buzzword of choice.
Fortunately, few of us are televised during our most hot-tempered moments.
But that doesn't mean we aren't capable of hurting people when we overstep our emotional boundaries.
One of the most memorable relationship milestones is when you see your partner get angry for the first time.
Or, better yet, when you allow yourself to get angry in front of your partner for the first time.
I'm not talking about a simple exasperated sigh.
I'm talking full-on, four-letter word spewing, air punching, face reddening anger. You know, the kind you usually try to curb by taking a run on the treadmill.
Watching someone unleash a temper -- even if it's not done violently -- can be a rude awakening. The new vocal tone and erratic body language might enough to make you take a step back.
Then, assuming the circumstances aren't too extreme, you move forward.
And hope the unrecognizable monster stays in hibernation.
Fortunately, few of us are televised during our most hot-tempered moments.
But that doesn't mean we aren't capable of hurting people when we overstep our emotional boundaries.
One of the most memorable relationship milestones is when you see your partner get angry for the first time.
Or, better yet, when you allow yourself to get angry in front of your partner for the first time.
I'm not talking about a simple exasperated sigh.
I'm talking full-on, four-letter word spewing, air punching, face reddening anger. You know, the kind you usually try to curb by taking a run on the treadmill.
Watching someone unleash a temper -- even if it's not done violently -- can be a rude awakening. The new vocal tone and erratic body language might enough to make you take a step back.
Then, assuming the circumstances aren't too extreme, you move forward.
And hope the unrecognizable monster stays in hibernation.
Black News: Taylor Swift Says Kanye Lied on Leno – He never Reached out to apologize
Kanye went onto Leno last night apologizing for what he did to Taylor Swift during the VMAs. He said that he wanted to apologize to her face to face, but Taylor says he hasn’t reached out.
Kanye, you gotta fix your image. Click to watch the video
Free Tuesday shows!
You can catch free entertainment at two local hot spots tonight.
The Shanty Shack, 4475 Warm Springs Road, hosts a performance by the Misty Harbor Band. Music starts at 7 p.m. Call 706-507-3418.
Also, the local rockers from Poanna perform at SoHo Bar & Grill, 5751 Milgen Road.
The band warns concert goers, "If you’re looking for Nickelback or Celine Dion inspired music, look elsewhere." Music starts at 9 p.m. Call 706-568-3316.
Both shows are open to partiers 21 and older.
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