The Girls Guide to Homelessness

One of the central principles in the firewalking workshop I recently attended: Perception is not reality.

Need an illustration? Check out this woman, who has suddenly become perhaps the most prominent face of homelessness.

She looks for jobs using Internet from Starbucks. She has a blog, "The Girls Guide to Homelessness." And she's white.

Brianna Karp made national headlines after she e-mailed E. Jean Carroll, a popular advice columnist for Elle magazine.

Karp, who was laid off from her full-time job in July 2008, described bombing an audition for reality TV show designed to find an executive assistant for a big name celeb.

E. Jean wrote back in Elle -- a response that included offering Karp an internship.

So now, after contacting someone on a whim, Karp has an internship. And she blogs for Elle.

Inspirational story, right? Turns out the impact is deeper than that.

Check out Karp's Elle blog and you'll see a mix of comments. Some are enthusiastic. But just as many criticize Karp for not "really" being homeless. Or only gaining public attention because of her race.

There's no right or wrong answers in dialogue like this, only a slight reminder that our perception of those most in need is always open to revision.

Don't mess with my man

Want reassurance your best friend isn't hitting on your boyfriend?

Don't read this post.

Here, relationship goddesses Em & Lo point to an Oklahoma State University study that revealed women were almost twice as likely to want to pursue a relationship with a man if they knew he was already taken.

So maybe you're not just being paranoid.

Almost every circle of girls includes That Friend -- the one who pals around a little too closely with other peoples' boyfriends.

Very rarely will her actions materialize into a physical affair. Still...there are the inside jokes, the "friendly" hugs, the conversations that seem to last just a little too long.

In all fairness, you probably are reading into things a bit.

But there's no harm in keeping a watchful eye over someone's tendency to want what she can't have.

Consider yourself warned.

Did She Really Get Beat?

"It didn't go down the way it was reported: [They said] I was airlifted, I was beat. Honey if I'm beat, that place would have been on fire. I am a South Side Chicago girl, ain't nobody putting their hands on me, and getting away with it – at all."

Firewalking

There's something to remember when you're walking across a bed of hot coals: Don't look down.

Instead, keep your focus straight ahead. Maintain eye contact with your trainer. Put your arms in the air.

And wipe your feet when it's over.

I learned all this firsthand Saturday, when I participated in Scott Goodknight's Firewalk for the Visually Impaired prior to the Country's Midnight Express 5K race.

Watch me firewalk in the video above, filmed by the very talented Alan Riquelmy. I show up in the last 20 seconds.

Initially, I figured my commitment would be minimal. "I mean, don't you just have to walk quickly?" I repeatedly asked my office friends. (All of whom had never before firewalked.)

Then, I learned I'd be training for almost 4 hours prior to walking on the coals.

Outsiders responded to that news with one of two conclusions. No. 1: I was being trained to do something potentially fatal. No. 2: I was being brainwashed.

I'm typing this post more than 24 hours after walking. My limbs are fully intact. And I have yet to forcibly chant a nonsensical chorus.

Scott Goodknight makes firewalking not just a physical exercise, but a reminder of life purpose. That's what the training session is really about.

When you complete the experience, you're left with a concrete reminder of what you can conquer when you're so focused on a mission that there is no room for interruption.

Don't you just have to walk quickly? Maybe.

But sometimes, it's helpful to have someone remind you of what you can really become in the absence of fear.

It's nice to have moments when you conquer obstacles with state of mind first, fancy footwork second.

I came. I chose action. I walked.

And I still haven't looked down.

Serena Talks about Body Shape Issues

As tennis phenoms Venus and Serena Williams prepare for this year's U.S. Open, which starts Aug. 31, a candid interview Serena recently gave to People magazine is drawing plenty of attention. The younger Williams sister discussed her new memoir, 'On the Line,' which touches on fashion, love, body image, and her bout with depression after the murder of her half-sister, Yetunde Price, in 2003.
What she went through after losing Price is the heart of 'On The Line':

It was a real dark period in my life. I went through depression. I never even talked about it to my mom. No one knew I was in therapy, but I was. I was so close to her.

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Check out the Hottest Rapper in Houston

Rapper Z-ro (pronounced Zero) has H-town back on the map.  Click here to listen to one of his songs.

Venus and Serena Buy a Part of a Team

They might spend most of their time on the tennis courts, but Venus and Serena Williams are avid football fans. So much so that they purchased a small ownership in the Miami Dolphins. The deal, which was announced this week, makes Venus and Serena the first female African Americans to have an ownership stake in an NFL team.
"I am so excited to be part of such a renowned organization," Serena said. "Having spent so much of my childhood in the area, being involved with a staple of Miami culture is a huge honor. We look forward to many championships and much success together with the Miami Dolphins."

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What's going on this weekend?

Here's your weekend lineup. Check the prior post for some highlights.

FRIDAY

• Whisky Bent, 10 p.m. Scruffy Murphy’s, $5. 706-322-3460.

• The Last Rodeo Band, 9 p.m. VFW Post 665 (Victory Drive), $5. 706-687-6656.

• Dueling pianos, 10 p.m. The Vault, $5. 706-653-8277.

• DJ D’Rock, 8 p.m. The Roadhouse, free.

• Framing Hanley, 10:30 p.m. H2O, $15. 706-327-9700.

• 2 Finger Jester, 10 p.m. SoHo Bar & Grill, $5. 706-568-3316.

• Big Woody and The Splinters, 9 p.m. Belloo’s, $5. 706-494-1584.

• Sean Rox, 9 p.m. Fountain City Coffee, free. 706-494-6659.

• Peggy Jenkins and the Bizness with special guest Marshall Ruffin, 9:30 p.m. The Loft, $5. 706-596-8141.

• Lazy Swamis, 8 p.m. Daileys, $5. 706-320-3353.

SATURDAY

• Randy Dameron with Circle of Friends, 7:30 p.m. Ossahatchee Oyster Bar and Grill, free. 706-582-2629.

• Lazy Swamis, 8 p.m. Daileys, $5. 706-320-3353.

• Sam Thacker, 9 p.m. The Loft, $5. 706-596-8141.

• DJ D’Rock, 8 p.m. The Roadhouse, $5.

• Filthy Wilma, 10 p.m. SoHo Bar & Grill, $5. 706-568-3316.

• Big Woody and The Splinters, 9 p.m. Belloo’s, $5. 706-494-1584.

• B.J. Holland, 9 p.m. Fountain City Coffee, free. 706-494-6659.

• Whisky Bent, 10 p.m. Scruffy Murphy’s, $5. 706-322-3460.

• The Last Rodeo Band, 9 p.m. VFW Post 665 (Victory Drive), $5. 706-687-6656.

• Dueling pianos, 10 p.m. The Vault, $5. 706-653-8277.

Some party highlights

Hey everybody! It's a pretty full weekend for local entertainment. I'll post your full lineup a little later this afternoon, but I wanted to quickly point out some standout options:

*Friday, bluegrass queen Rhonda Vincent performs at the Phenix City Amphitheater. Tickets are $10 and show starts at 8 p.m. In case of rain, the event will be held at Central Activities Center, 1500 14th Street in Phenix City.

*Also on Friday, the rockers from Framing Hanley take the stage at H2O, 6499 Veterans Parkway. These guys made waves with their rock cover of Lil Wayne's "Lollipop." Tickets are $15. Music starts at 10:30 p.m.

*Saturday, "The Amazing Race" holds a casting call on the 1100 block of Broadway. It's 4-6 p.m. Participants must be 21. You must bring a completed application, which you can download here.

*Later Saturday, catch the Midnight Express 5K race at Country's, 3137 Mercury Drive. The race is at midnight, but the fun starts much earlier. There's music beginning at 8, plus you can watch some brave people walk across a bed of hot coals. (Yes, I'm one of them.)

*Sunday, the Ultimate Bridal Expo comes to the RiverMill Event Center, 3715 First Ave. It's 1-5 p.m. and admission is $3-$5. Added bonus: I'm modeling in the fashion show.

The Return of Whitney Houston

After three years in the studio, Whitney Houston will release her sixth studio album, 'I Look to You,' on Aug. 31.
Amid all the rumors about the chart-topping diva, BV has compiled some interesting facts about the woman bornWhitney Elizabeth Houston and provided a candid look at her throughout the years.
-- The Newark, N.J., native became the first female recording artist to enter the Billboard 200 album chart at number one with her sophomore release, 'Whitney,' in 1987.

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Fast food probation

How long do you have to wait before taking your significant other to a fast food restaurant?

I'm sure plenty of you are staring at that question confusedly, touting a Whopper's romantic appeal.

But this Glamour blogger thinks indulging in a fast food date too early in a relationship could be a dealbreaker.

I've known couples who have had their first or second dates at, say, Wendy's. There's nothing wrong with the concept, assuming you both have the same approach to dating.

Really, how often does that happen? In many circumstances, the guy will suggest the option and the girl will agreebecause it's too early in the relationship to say what she really thinks.

Then, she'll go home, complain to her friends and cut off all ties with him.

A commenter on the aforementioned Glamour blog says fast food outings are fine...AFTER the third date.

Agree or disagree?

Freeway of love

Ah, the open road. It seems nothing could be more romantic...until you learn you'll be listening to industrial techno for the entire journey.

Are we there yet?

This week's nightlife column details the harsh realities of traveling with a significant other.

I wrote the piece in conjunction with an upcoming "Amazing Race" casting call in Columbus, held 4-6 p.m. Saturday on the 1000 block of Broadway. Download an application here.

My biggest travel pet peeve? It's a tie between music and temperature controls. I don't understand how somebody can enjoy driving without music.

But also, few things irk me more than the navigator who thinks the temperature options are limited to full-power AC or full-power heat. CJ brought that one up earlier this week.

Fortunately, aside from my inability to read maps, I think I'm a pretty good travel partner.

If I get pouty, you just have to take me through a Starbucks or Krystal drive-thru and I rebound immediately.

(For more advice, check out this list of travel tips for couples, courtesy of The Frisky.)

What's going on tonight?

Hey Thursday partiers! Your lineup is pretty packed.

One highlight: the new Battle of the Bands at H2O, 6499 Veterans Parkway. Acts compete for a $2,000 prize. Tonight's roster spans bands like Spent, The Chris Collins Band, Holdcell and Devil Theory. Music starts at 9 p.m.

Here are your other options:

• Open mike, 8 p.m. Fountain City Coffee, free. 706-494-6659.

• Whisky Bent, 10 p.m. Scruffy Murphy’s, free. 706-322-3460.

• Dixie Mafiaa, 9 p.m. Shanty Shack, free. 706-507-3418.

• Battle of the Bands (round one), 9 p.m. H2O, $5 (free for women). 706-327-9700.

• Laney Strickland Band, 10 p.m. SoHo Bar & Grill, $5 (free for military). 706-568-3316.

• Stereomonster, The Unsung, Ethos, 8 p.m. The Roadhouse, free. $1.50 PBR.

• Gary Parmer, 9 p.m. Belloo’s, free. 706-494-1584.

Boyfriend replacement pillow

Imagine this: The comfort of a snuggle buddy without the annoyances of snoring and hogging the covers.

Sound too good to be true? Think again.

Now, there's a full-length heated body pillow -- unofficially dubbed the "boyfriend replacement pillow" -- that conforms to the shape of your body while you relax.

This could significantly increase the amount of time you're willing to be single.

Laugh, but I know lots of people -- guys included -- who simply hate sleeping alone. I've heard stories of people pursuing relationships primarily because they can't get a good night's rest without snuggling.

Then, of course, there's that shell-shocked nighttime sensation you encounter after a relationship's demise.

After months of sharing a bed, it can be really difficult to adjust to sleeping solo.

Here, one blogger writes about how she was so excited to enjoy a plush, spacious hotel bed alone...until she realized it really wasn't that cool after all.

Note: If a boyfriend replacement pillow doesn't appeal to you, don't worry.

I, too, enjoy occasional nights sans cuddling. Not only because I'm embarrassed about my drooling problem.

Lil Weezy on Education Video

Apparently Wayne wants kids to get education.  We give him props for that.  But maybe he needs to start with himself.

Click here to watch the video.

Black News: Usher and His Old Ass Women

Word on the street is that Usher’s ex Tameka is stalking his new chick.  That’s beside the point though – don’t you think Usher could do better than both of them?

Relationship Obituaries

Ladies and gentlemen, please join me in mourning a victim of heartless emotions. The ultimate cause of death: incompatible TV viewing habits.

Welcome to the world of Relationship Obituaries, a Web site where users can mourn the passing of their romantic ties.

The site, designed like a newspaper, has even spawned a book.

Causes of relationship death span the serious ("his heart went cold"), the blunt ("his stupidity") and the lighthearted ("we had the horsepower of a snail").

Radio reporter Kathleen Horan came up with the idea after she and her boyfriend broke up. Shortly after the breakup, Horan's father died.

She found a sense of comfort in writing her father's obituary, and decided to find out whether that kind of comfort could be gained through a relationship obit.

Between Relationship Obituaries and Dear Old Love (yesterday's blog post), the Internet is rich with opportunities give a relationship written closure -- if you believe such a thing exists.

Are these sites comforting, or do they only extend an obsession with a relationship that's already dead and gone?

Guess Who’s Loving the Chocolate?

Simon Cowell’s woman, Sinitta Malone.  What you think?

Celebrity News: R. Kelly’s Album coming out in October

 

I guess we can forget about that whole thing about peeing on little girls, huh?

Celebrity News: Judge Puts the HAMMER down on Chris Brown!

A judge on Tuesday sentenced Chris Brown to five years' probation and six months' community labor for the beating of Rihanna and ordered the R&B singer to stay away from his former girlfriend for the next five years.

Los Angeles Superior Court Judge Patricia Schnegg told Brown that he could be sent to state prison if he violated any terms of his sentence, including an order to stay 100 yards away from Rihanna unless they're attending music industry events.

A probation report prepared for Tuesday's sentencing describes two previous violent incidents. It said the first happened about three months before the February beating while the couple was traveling in Europe; Rihanna slapped Brown during an argument, and he shoved her into a wall. In the second instance, Brown allegedly broke the front and passenger side windows on a Range Rover they were driving while visiting Barbados, Rihanna's home country. Neither attack was reported, the probation report states.

 

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The last word

Here's your chance to say that final line to your ex...without worrying about the awkward silence that would follow in a face-to-face conversation.

The Web site: Dear Old Love, which lets users anonymously submit concise notes to people they've loved in the past.

A sampling of the entries:

"My dreams remember a lot more about you than I care to admit."

"You only loved the chase. So why was I the one running down the street after you?"

"I don’t know what is worse, the fact that you left me the day we got back from Mexico, or that it took you a year to apologize for doing so."

"Since you’re with her now, can we have an affair?"

Cathartic? Maybe.

At the very least, it helps ease some of the inevitable "could haves" and "should haves" you encounter while constantly rehashing the breakup conversation in your mind.

(via YourTango)

Hip Hop Wired – 8/25/09

Juelz Santana Arrested for “Threatening To Kill His Wife”

NEWS

» by JUSTIN STEWART   Aug 25 2009, 14:40 pm

Member of the Diplomats and Leader of the Skull Gang, rapper Juelz Santana was arrested today for domestic abuse.  According to reports, Santana allegedly threatened to kill his wife.

Reports show that a 911 call was placed by his wife early this morning during an altercation between the two in their home in Teaneck, New Jersey.  Whatever was said in the phone call clearly did the trick as the rapper was arrested on domestic battery charges, although she was not in need of any

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Lil Wayne feat. Eminem, Kanye West and Drake Coming Soon?

NEWS

» by JUSTIN STEWART   Aug 25 2009, 13:29 pm

In anticipation for the documentary film More Than A Game, the stakes may have risen to a boiling point as a dream collaboration may be in the works for the soundtrack.

There have been rumors circulating that a song featuring Wayne, Drake, Kanye West and Eminem is in the process and will be featured for the film.  Reports have even taken it as far as stating that the track will be available Friday on iTunes.

For Louisiana bred Lil Wayne, the self proclaimed rapper eater has stated that one of his musical dreams came in the form of actually working alongside the Detroit rapper and even issued a challenge to bring Eminem out of hiding to do a track with him.

The actual film, being disturbed by Lionsgate, surrounds the upbringing of basketball player Lebron James, who was

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Juror for C-Murder Trial Says Voting Process Was Foul

NEWS

» by JUSTIN STEWART   Aug 25 2009, 12:50 pm

Now that the trial is over and Corey “C-Murder” Miller has been convicted for murder, a juror now steps up to state that foul play happened in casting the votes and declaring that Miller was indeed guilty.

Mary Jacob, who had a hand on two occasions in having the deciding vote for the murder trial, has now come forth to admit that one juror did not fully believe that Miller was indeed guilty of the crime he was being accused of, but her vote was tainted by other jurors who ultimately made her decide in their

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G-Unit Employee Due In Court For Assault Charge

NEWS

» by DANIELLE CANADA   Aug 25 2009, 12:19 pm

An employee of 50 Cent's G-Unit empire is due in court today for his second assault charge in three months. 27-year old Dwayne Mckenzie is facing criminal charges for attacking an unidentified woman and holding her down so another woman could beat her.

The incident happened August 16 at 50's 50,000 square foot mansion in Connecticut. According to the unidentified woman, he asked her for oral sex. When she refused, one of her friends jumped to her defense and began to argue with him. When the woman and her friend tried to leave, they were attacked by 21-year old

Free Tuesday shows!

Two Columbus hot spots will treat music fans to free shows tonight.

Visit the Shanty Shack, 4475 Warm Springs Road, and you'll get a free performance by local party act The Relics. Music starts at 7 p.m. Call 706-507-3418.

At SoHo Bar and Grill, 5751 Milgen Road, you can catch a show by the rockers from the Winter Sounds and Parachute Musical. Music starts around 10 p.m. Call 706-568-3316.

Why Can’t Iverson Get a Job?

Dr. Deborah Stroman, a leading scholar on Leadership and Sport, was asked why Allen Iverson can’t find a job.   Here is what she had to say.  Other notable athletes, Edgerrin James, Marvin Harrison and Derrick Brookes are also on the sidelines.

“Money is only one aspect of a good veteran not being picked up by a team. The other factor is leadership. If the organization is trying to develop new leaders, the coach and/or general manager will not gamble the new leader’s development and team chemistry with the introduction of a  veteran leader. And this veteran leadership may be displayed by performance or verbal acumen. For example, you may have a veteran wide receiver or running back who doesn’t talk much but has the potential to dominate on the field. A younger player may be drawn to that performer as a role model and not the new leader (often times the quarterback) who is trying to gain influence and control of “his” team. Or the veteran leader may be charismatic and draw attention to himself and away from the leaders that the organization is rightfully trying to impose on the other players. The organization feels that the signing of the veteran player is just not worth the risk.”

Black Celebrity News: Usher Is Officially a Free Man

Singer Usher Raymond is officially back to being a bachelor.

BV Buzz has learned exclusively that the 30-year-old singer's divorce from his wife Tameka Foster has been finalized and an agreement was reached in pre-court settlement.

The camps aren't talking now – likely preparing to give an exclusive to a media outlet like People magazine – but I hear an official announcement should drop soon.

A rep for the singer did not answer a detailed request for comment.

Foster's publicist refuses to issue statements to BV Buzz anymore.

"In the future please don't bother us again for direct quotes or responses from Tameka," a one-named flack named Melody e-mailed last week.

Usher is currently in Paris, France celebrating the end to the two-year marriage.

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Proposal fears

Is it weird to be terrified about how your marriage proposal will go down?

Here, a Glamour blogger details her biggest proposal fear. She has nightmares about her boyfriend just casually saying "hey, maybe we should get married" -- no grand gestures, no elaborate speech.

I'll admit I've spent many late nights worrying about what will happen when somebody proposes to me. For years, I feared I'd get engaged on a night when my nails weren't decorated with a perfect French manicure.

Then, I swore off manicures -- thanks, national economy! -- and that fear was null and void.

Now, I mainly worry that if I'm ever lucky enough to have a guy pop the question, my spastic response will make him rescind that offer immediately.

You laugh, but I've been known to say some pretty stupid things. If that doesn't happen, there's a 99 percent chance I'll have a giant booger in my nose while he's professing his undying love.

I guess all that really matters is the fact someone cares enough about you to want a lifelong commitment.

Boogers included, right?

News: Carmello Sues Former Business Manager

When athletes finally make it to the professional level, they're immediately surrounded by people they don't know but are forced to trust. And young athletes in their twenties who don't have any money-management skills whatsoever are ripe for being taken advantage of. That's what happened to Carmelo Anthony, but now he's fighting back.
Melo filed a $2 million lawsuit against his former business manager, Larry W. Harmon and his firm, Larry Harmon & Associates P.A. The suit alleges that Harmon breached their contract by transferring $1.75 million of Anthony's money without his knowledge or consent to a company formed by Harmon, most of it in 2008, according to the Associated Press. There was another $265,000 invested in companies that Melo had no knowledge of or given consent to.

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Young Buck: Payback is a Bitch huh?

Apparently, Young Buck has realized not to f*ck with the wrong dudes.  After seeing Buck beg for forgiveness after their beef put him under the rug,  Tony Yayo had this to say,”"You being disgruntled towards 50, now what do you have? You could have been with us in Peru. We went to Switzerland, Istanbul, we went everywhere man. I'm too real for the industry. Even if I was disgruntled about anything, I wouldn't care, because I'm still getting money. Still got houses, still got cars, sprinklers still come out the ground."

Damn, coming back on your knees is a bitch.

Aaliyah, we miss you

Can you believe it’s been 8 years since Aaliyah died?  We can’t.

Black News: Michael’s Doctor Had Major Financial Problems

AP Photo/Houston Chronicle, Pool Photographer

Hmmm...maybe that's why Dr. Conrad Murray is being so cooperative with the Los Angeles Police Department. And the Las Vegas Police Department. And the Clark County Sheriff's Department. And the Drug Enforcement Administration.

It seems it's not the good doctor's first time at the rodeo.

A check of Michael Jackson's physician's legal past has revealed everything from domestic violence charges (of which he was acquitted) to financial woes (which at one point included a bankruptcy filing) to his latest headache (you know, other than that whole target-of-a-manslaughter-investigation thing), the possibility that his Las Vegas home could soon be foreclosed upon.

Let's hope the feds treaded lightly during yesterday's search. Depreciation can be a real bitch.

Documents filed July 23 with the Clark County Recorder reveal that Murray could face foreclosure on his gated country club estate as soon as November. Though the timing on the filing may seem a bit like kicking Murray when he's down, Jackson's doctor reportedly fell more than $100,000 into debt on the home, with his last payment, of $15,000, being made in January of this year. (Which may be why Murray was so keen to stay in Jackson's good graces and keep the $150,000-a-month salary that came with it.)

As for Murray's less current troubles, here's a rundown of his legal lowlights:

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Shocker: Autopsy Says Michael Jackson’s Doctor Killed Him

Singer Michael Jackson had lethal levels of the drug propofol in his blood when he died, according to court documents.

A search warrant filed in court showed toxicology reports found propofol in Michael Jackson's body.

Los Angeles' coroner Dr. Lakshmanan Sathyavagiswaran reached that preliminary conclusion after reviewing toxicology results carried out on Jackson's blood, according to an affidavit.

The drug Diprivan, known by its generic name propofol, is administered intravenously in operating rooms as a general anesthetic, the manufacturer AstraZeneca told CNN.

A source close to the investigation told CNN that Dr. Conrad Murray is believed to have administered the drug to Jackson within 24 hours of his death on June 25.

Investigators have searched Murray's home and clinics for evidence related to the anesthetic propofol, according to documents filed in court.

The drug works as a depressant on the central nervous system.

"It works on your brain," said Dr. Zeev Kain, the chair of the anesthesiology department at the University of California --Irvine. "It basically puts the entire brain to sleep."

 

 

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Can't buy me love

Actually, maybe you can.

This post on YourTango asks whether a guy can buy his way out of infidelity. The writer points to a guy in the U.K. who over three decades spent about $400,000 on "I'm sorry I cheated again" gifts for his wife.

Then, there's Kobe Bryant, who bought his wife a $4 million, 8-carat purple diamond ring after his extramarital tryst.

When it comes to cheating, I think an "I'm sorry" gift -- no matter how elaborate -- is a Band-Aid, rather than a cure.

It can make for a temporary moment of forgiveness, but ultimately it won't erase the long-term impact of betrayal.

However, in less severe situations, I think the right gift can get you out of the awkward "you need to apologize" conversation.

Ideally, I'd like you to directly apologize any time you hurt my feelings.

But if your offense is minor, and you bring me the right kind of coffee, you can consider yourself forgiven.

Dating goes to the dogs

There's one meet market where poop's putrid aroma won't ruin your chances of scoring a second date:

The dog park.

Here, the Washington Post describes how a dog park can have matchmaking potential for humans.

My favorite part of the article? This disclaimer, courtesy of Dan Cohen, founder and president of Animal Attraction:

"Being at the dog park's great and it allows you to open up a conversation, but at some point, there needs to be something for two people to talk about other than, you know, what color is your dog's poop in the morning."

Sadly, I've heard the "our dogs get along great, can I get your number?" pickup line more than once. It doesn't work.

Confession time: Have you ever used your pet as a way to meet members of the opposite sex?

(Read more pet stories at Andrea's Girl's Best Friend blog here.)

News: Having a Baby? OK Then

 

In spite of her pleas to the opposite, it seems that good ol Gabi be loving the athletes.  Rumor is that she and D might be having a baby together.  OK, we can accept that.

The Simpsons Get Some Color

 

The image above is the promo picture for the upcoming season of “The Simpsons” in Angola, and to appeal to the audience the agency has decided to incorporate some of the African culture.  Personally I think the picture is hysterical but as expected there are some naysayers who feel it is stereotypical.

KRS-One is Now a Preacher?

"I'm suggesting that in 100 years, this book will be a new religion on the earth," KRS-One said of his new book, which claims hip-hop to be the world's dominant new religion. "Now you talk about controversy, there's some Christian ministries if you go online, look up some ministers, they dissing right now. 'Who the h--- does he think he is?' Well, I think I have the authority to approach God directly, I don't have to go through any religion [or] train of thought. I can approach God directly myself and so I wrote a book called The Gospel of Hip Hop to free from all this nonsense garbage right now. I respect the Christianity, the Islam, the Judaism but their time is up."

Ghostface Giving Relationship Advice?

Ghostface is doing a weekly video series called "Wizdom of the Week." In the first installment, he explained to women that all men cheat, but that doesn't mean we don't love y'all. "That's what it is. We love the s--- out yall. But we just be f-----. I'm not sayin everybody, cause i got a couple of friends that don't cheat on they girls, or don't do nothin' because they feel like they don't want it comin' back. I could dig it. That's some real s---. I didn't move to that level. That's another level I gotta f----- go to on some 'Martin' s---, when he f----- around and left Gina to go find himself." Kinda wish Ghost would do this daily, or have his own talk radio show. Or just hang out on our roof and give us tips on stuff. [Rapradar]

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Oprah Starts New Season Off with a Bang

 

This fall will be Oprah’s 24th season of her talk show “The Oprah Winfrey Show”, and she is claiming that the season premiere will be one of the most anticipated shows of this decade.  So what is going to make this episode so spectacular you may ask, well “O” will be interviewing Whitney Houston.  This will be Whitney’s first interview in almost seven years so this definitely should be interesting.  The premiere will air Monday September 14, and make sure you watch it.

Young Money Drops Omarion

 

Well damn that had to be a record, how long was he on the label a month or two???  The president of Young Money, Mack Maine, revealed yesterday that Omarion has parted was from the record company, read what he had to say below.

“Omarion is no longer with Young Money… May God be with him and his future endeavors.”

I wonder what was the cause behind all of this??? Whatever it was I am sure it will be coming out soon.

What's going on this weekend?

Check out the previous post for some party highlights. Here's your music list:

FRIDAY

• Before the Solstice, Caution the Senate, Sum Ever After, 8 p.m. Daileys, $5. 706-320-3353.

• The Drownout, Jungol, 10 p.m. SoHo Bar & Grill, $5. 706-568-3316.

• Pipers Down, 10 p.m. Scruffy Murphy’s, $5. 706-322-3460.

• Blizzard of Ozzy, 8 p.m. The Roadhouse, $5.

• Gone Country, 9 p.m. Saloon & Oyster Bar, free. 706-568-8400.

• Claiborne & Friends, 9 p.m. Belloo’s, $5. 706-494-1584.

• Chris Williams, 9 p.m. Fountain City Coffee, free. 706-494-6659.

• The Last Rodeo Band, 9 p.m. VFW Post 665 (Victory Drive), $5. 706-687-6656.

• Dueling pianos, 10 p.m. The Vault, $5. 706-653-8277.

• Peggy Jenkins and the Bizness, 9 p.m. The Loft, $5. 706-596-8141.

• Randy Dameron with Circle of Friends, 7:30 p.m. Ossahatchee Oyster Bar and Grill, free. 706-582-2629.

SATURDAY

• Trap County, Dead End, Uberstout, 8 p.m. Daileys, $5. 706-320-3353.

• Dr. Louis Sullivan with DJ Drizno, 9 p.m. The Loft, $5. 706-596-8141.

• Seven Zero Sixx, 9 p.m. Saloon & Oyster Bar, free. 706-568-8400.

• Boneheadz, 10 p.m. Scruffy Murphy’s, $5. 706-322-3460.

• DJ D’Rock, 8 p.m. The Roadhouse, $5.

• Claiborne & Friends, 9 p.m. Belloo’s, $5. 706-494-1584.

• Forced Entry, Joan Red, Frequency 54, 10 p.m. SoHo Bar & Grill, $5. 706-568-3316.

• The Last Rodeo Band, 9 p.m. VFW Post 665 (Victory Drive), $5. 706-687-6656.

• Dueling pianos, 10 p.m. The Vault, $5. 706-653-8277.

Weekend party highlights

Hey everybody! Lots of great options for Columbus-area partiers this weekend. I'll post the full lineup soon, but here are some standout options:

*Flip Flops, 1111 Broadway, hosts an '80s party Friday night. Classic Addict entertains. There's no cover if you're wearing an '80s getup, otherwise it's $5 after 10 p.m.

*Also on Friday, Atlanta-based Ozzy Osbourne tribute act Blizzard of Ozzy plays at The Roadhouse, 1047 Broadway. It's $5 and music starts around 10:30 p.m.

*One more Friday highlight: PlayDate Columbus, the event that lets adults mingle with cocktails and board games, returns to the Doubletree Hotel, 5351 Sidney Simons Blvd. Admission is $10, and you must be 21 and older to attend. Action starts at 8 p.m.

*Saturday, "The Rocky Horror Show" has its final midnight performance at the International Marketplace, 318 10th Avenue at Victory Drive. Tickets are $15 and $18.

Facebook personalities

This article detailing the 12 most annoying types of Facebookers is one of the most viewed stories on CNN.

The list is pretty accurate, spanning Facebook pet peeves like The TMIer ("Sarah is wondering why she can't stop barfing.") and The Sympathy-Baiter ("John is hoping things will get better.")

Faithful readers of this blog know my least favorite Facebooker: The PDAer.

It's not included on the aforementioned list, but it should be.

Nothing annoys me more than the Facebooker who uses the social networking tool primarily to tout his/her significant other's awesomeness.

Sample status updates include, but are not limited to: "Mary is lucky to have the best boyfriend ever!" "Kyle is having dinner with his beautiful wife!" "Megan is looking forward to date night with the hubby!"

Wow. I almost broke into a fit of rage just typing those.

If you hate Facebook PDAers as much as I do, check out this site, which pokes fun at married peoples' status updates.

PEPA DIDN’T WANT WILL

Apparently before he met Jada, actor Will Smith was trying to HOLLA HARD at Pepa from Salt and Pepa. And, according to her – dude was TRICKIN ON HER too!!!
Here’s what Pepa had to say about it in a recent interview:

"I thought Will was really cute and we would hang out a lot on the road. He liked to take care of me and never let me spend a dime. He was that kind of guy, real generous.
I remember when they won their first award, he asked me to go out with him afterward. He was so excited. We were walking along the street getting ready to grab something to eat, and he just gave this homeless guy $100 dollars."
"I sometimes kick myself when I think about what could have been. He was so nice to me, but I really wasn't feeling him. I guess I couldn't appreciate a nice guy like Will Smith.
He wasn't thug enough. I was attracted to thugs and hoodlums. Will was too nice to me."

Girl … we understand … too many of us have passed up on the Will Smith’s of the world to get with the Treach’s of the hood ….

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OMARION AND LIL WAYNE MINOR BEEF IS OVER

R&B singer Omarion has hit back at suggestions he was dropped from Lil Wayne's record label imprint after leaking his collaboration with the rapper.

The former B2K singer signed to Lil Wayne's Young Money roster earlier this summer and even made an appearance on the Young Money Presents America's Most Wanted Music Festival roadshow last week.

On Wednesday, the Ice Box hitmaker's unreleased duet with Lil Wayne, entitled I Get It In, surfaced on the internet - and that same day Young Money rapper Mack Maine confirmed on his Twitter.com page that Omarion had been booted from the Young Money crew.

Maine also clarified that the track was an unauthorised leak, prompting gossips to speculate Omarion had been axed for secretly distributing the song online.

But Omarion insists he actually requested to be let out of his contract.

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My Husband is Annoying

OK, guys. You've found the girl of your dreams. The chemistry is good, the conversation is enthralling and you think you're the perfect match.

Just one tiny problem: She keeps a blog of all your annoying habits.

Welcome to the world of "My Husband is Annoying," one New York woman's account of her husband's irritating traits.

He knows about the blog, and doesn't mind. In this NY Daily News piece, he calls it "kind of a tribute to all husbands."

But some readers don't get it.

The aforementioned article attracted a mixed bag of online comments. Some readers praised the blog, while others made statements like this:

"Married women have no right to make a fool of their husbands in public. These stupid women are the reason for so many divorces - you don't treat your husband like a dog and expect him to stick around and take it."

Thing is, the blog doesn't target deep character flaws or physical grotesqueness. It's just tiny quirks that affect every relationship, like not knowing how to work the remote control.

If you're a good sport about it, something like this could enhance a relationship. But if taken too far, it could also ignite a breakup.

"My Husband is Annoying": Cute or crass?

KIM AND REGGIE ARE BACK TOGETHER

It's official!!  Kim Kardashian and Reggie Bush are back together.
What happened? Well word is that Kim was putting some SERIOUS pressure on Reggie to get married.

But now, according to a TRUSTED source, she's decided to take a step back, give Reggie some space and "play her position." [that's an exact quote]
Gee … wonder what that position is - bench warmer???

Technorati Tags: football,kim kardashian,reggie bush,sports,black gossip

TYRESE IS FINALLY FREE

learned that Tyrese's divorce to Norma Gibson is officially completed. And here are the details of the arrangement:

Tyrese and Norma share custody of their daughter, Shayla, but Tyrese pays $6,230 a month in child support

Tyrese buys Norma her Range Rover (when the lease is up)

Norma gets to keep all the jewelry and gifts that Tyrese bought her during the marriage

Tyrese pays a one time - lump payment of $42,500

Tyrese pays for all attorney fees (both his and Norma's)

You see Nas ... this is what a settlement is supposed to look like!!!

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KELIS WANTS ALL DA MONEY

just learned that R&B singer Kelis is claiming that she’s having a hard time making ends meet.
Remember how last month a judge ordered Nas to pay Kelis 55 thousand dollars a month in child and spousal support? Well apparently that’s not enough.
Because in a new court filing,  We learned that Kelis is asking to have her support INCREASED … to 72,000 a month ... plus another 18,000 a month in child support!!!
here's the list of things that Kelis is asking for:

--child support totaling $17,225 a month
-- spousal support totaling $72,728
-- retroactive child support totaling $29,522
-- retroactive spousal support totaling $281,571

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ASHANTI LEAVES NELLY

 

People have been telling Ashanti for years about rapper Nelly and his jump offs. Well now his longtime girlfriend Ashanti has had enough. According to the NY Daily News, she broke it off.
Here’s what they’re saying:

IT'S OVER BETWEEN NELLY AND ASHANTI. An insider claims the two split because Ashanti was ready to settle down, while her beau wanted to sow his wild oats. Sure enough, the "Hot in Herre" rapper has been squiring video vixen Jessica Rabbit around Las Vegas and Miami.

Sorry 'Shanti ... it's a shame you ain't drop him sooner. You let that man take up most of your good years ...

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IS LADY GAGA A HERMAPHRODITE ?

Katy Perry has spoken out about speculation Lady Gaga is a hermaphrodite - insisting the singer fuelled the rumours on purpose.

Internet footage of the Poker Face singer onstage earlier this year sparked fresh debate as to whether or not the hitmaker has both female and male reproductive organs - because a bulge could clearly be seen.

Technorati Tags: lady gaga,hip hop,music. black gossip

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MR.FAB DON’T LIKE BLACK GIRLS

 

We usually try and refrain from putting up "colorism" articles. But Mister Fab really needs to be put on BLAST for the mess he’s talking. Listen to what he told Ozone Magazine’s Julie Beverley - a White woman - about Black girls.

It's a dang shame that this level of ignorance still exists out there

Technorati Tags: hip hop,celebrities,music. black gossip

click here to hear his statement

Video: Flip Flops Auburn

Need a closer look at the new Flip Flops in Auburn? Check out this excellent video, filmed by the multi-talented Alan Riquelmy.

Reminder: The bar's at 1651 South College Street in Auburn. It's all ages until 9 p.m., then it switches to 19 and older.

Check out their MySpace here.

What's going on tonight?

Here's your Thursday night party lineup:

• Open mike, 8 p.m. Fountain City Coffee, free. 706-494-6659.

• Pipers Down, 10 p.m. Scruffy Murphy’s, free. 706-322-3460.

• Steve McRay, 9 p.m. Belloo’s, free. 706-494-1584.

• Stereomonster, The Unsung, Ethos, 8 p.m. The Roadhouse, free. $1.50 PBR.

• The Grayhill Conspiracy, 9 p.m. Shanty Shack, free. 706-507-3418.

• Pistoltown, 10 p.m. SoHo Bar & Grill, $5 (free for military). 706-568-3316.

EX GIANT HEADS TO JAIL

 

NEW YORK(AP)—Former New York Giant Plaxico Burress(notes) pleaded guilty Thursday to a weapons charge and agreed to a two-year prison term for accidentally shooting himself at a Manhattan nightclub.

The ex-wide receiver pleaded guilty to one count of attempted criminal possession of a weapon, a lesser charge than he initially faced. Under a plea agreement, he agreed to a two-year prison sentence and two years of supervised release.

Burress was indicted earlier this month on two counts of criminal possession of a weapon and one count of reckless endangerment. He faced a minimum sentence of 3 1/2 years if convicted at a trial.

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DADDY’S GIRL IS MAKING HER OWN MONEY

Dressed in a chic American Apparel jumpsuit, Christian Dior pumps and an endless array of gold jewels, Vanessa Simmons' face glistens like the charms wrapped around her neck. Although the mini mogul celebrated her 26th birthday at the plush Su Casa in New York City, it's evident that she has more to celebrate than getting another year older.
The second season of 'Daddy's Girls'

will reveal the same glowing Vanessa as viewers get a first glimpse inside her and sister Angela's delicious empire known as Pastry, only to witness the evolution of their brain child as it expands to Macy's.
Viewers will also get the opportunity to watch the Simmons' sisters as they moRev. Runve into their new plush Hollywood home. But what viewers may find most intoxicating is "reserved" Vanessa's budding romance now made public.
In a candid interview, Vanessa revealed to BV Newswire details about her romance, the challenges of being a young entrepreneur, friendships lost and the inner strength she's found as a woman.

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Flip Flops Auburn

Wednesday, I hit the grand opening of Flip Flops' Alabama stepbrother. That's right: The Columbus hot spot now has a second location at 1651 South College Street in Auburn. It's a lot bigger than the Broadway bar, and will eventually have a full kitchen.


The bar is all ages until 9 p.m. and then it switches to 19 and older. It's open noon-3 a.m. seven days a week.


Expect the same assortment of frozen drinks you see at the Columbus location. There's eight daiquiri machines. Alan snapped this excellent photo of the two hurricanes we drank.


The bar's interior is really spacious, though most partiers congregated on the patio outside. I couldn't blame them. There's tons of space out there and it was a beautiful night. Note: Don't be alarmed by the toddler in the photo above. Remember, the bar is all ages until 9.

Will I be back? Definitely. The bar should do well. They have an awesome location. The crowd on opening night was pretty college-heavy, but there were quite a few middle-aged partiers like the guys featured above.