Friday, October 31, 2008
not-so-scary thoughts
As children, we're often terrified of things outside the realm of the ordinary. Images created specifically to challenge the depths of what we're willing to believe.
Monsters, witches, ghosts.
But as you grow older, your biggest fears, surprisingly, are rooted in reality. Memories of real mistakes you've made. The are scary largely because they didn't result from some uncontrollable dream or supernatural force.
No, it was all you.
Breakup Girl has this poignant comic about a girl who is haunted on Halloween by the ghost of relationships past. He interrupts her date with a new beau, reminding her of the good times she and her ex shared together.
She panics, afraid she'll never escape the haunting, until she realizes there's a difference between "longing" and "remembering."
We all face nightmares that remind us of real-life ghosts. They are scary, they are unavoidable and, often, they are heartache-inducing.
But fortunately, they are still only dreams.
where the party's at: halloween
FRIDAY
• The Shanty Shack, 4475 Warm Springs Road, has a party featuring a costume contest with cash prizes. 706-507-3418.
• There's a downtown block party in which one cover gives you access to the majority of Broadway bars. Participating venues boast costume contests, prizes and drink specials.
• Beyond downtown, SoHo Bar and Grill, 5751 Milgen Road, celebrates Halloween with party tunes from The M&M Band. Throughout the night, cash and prizes will be awarded for multiple categories of costumes. The bar will also give away a trip to Biloxi. 706-568-3316.
• Phenix City hot spot Broad Street Blues, 913 Broad St., has a party with prizes and music from Mojo:Saint. The action starts at 8 p.m. and cover is $5. 334-297-3200.
• Neighborhood bar Pop-A-Top, 210 32nd St., will welcome guests beginning around 7 p.m. There will be costume prizes and door prizes, as well as free hot dogs, hamburgers, cheeseburgers and side dishes. No cover. Saturday, the hot spot hosts a free cookout beginning at 2 p.m. 706-323-9292.
• Aqua Nightclub, 1812 Midtown Drive, celebrates with a costume contest and cash prizes. No cover. Party starts at 6 p.m.
• Martini and cigar bar Belloo's, 900 Front Ave., has a costume contest with cash prizes. There will also be giveaways and spooky cocktails. Claiborne & Friends entertain. The action begins around 8 p.m. and cover is $5. 706-494-1584.
• The Saloon & Oyster Bar, 6005 Macon Road, hosts a performance by Boneheadz and a costume contest beginning at 9 p.m. No cover. 706-568-8400.
• H2O, 6499 Veterans Parkway, has a costume contest with cash prizes of up to $1,000. Register by 10 p.m. One cruise trip and one Las Vegas trip will be given away via drawing. Cover is $10 non-costumed and $5 costumed. 706-327-9700.
SATURDAY
• H2O hosts a second Halloween party, also featuring a costume contest with cash prizes of up to $1,000. Register by 10 p.m. The bar's giving away another cruise trip and Las Vegas trip, too. Cover is $10 non-costumed and $5 costumed. 706-327-9700.
ho-aween
I'll post the local party lineup soon. In the meantime, here are some Halloween links to keep you busy:
*Need last-minute costume inspiration? Check out this gallery of photos from Entertainment Weekly readers.
*If your sci-fi getup goes over your fellow partiers' heads, find some kindred spirits in this collection of geeky costumes.
*This site has a detailed breakdown of which slutty costumes reigned supreme last year.
*Here's a collection of picks devoted entirely to women in cat costumes. I guess everyone has a fetish.
*And, for what it's worth, here are some instructions on how to make a very scary ghost out of a tampon.
Happy Halloween!
Thursday, October 30, 2008
write, don't preach
When you take out all criticisms that parallel relationships and business, this sort of contract doesn't seem like too bad of an idea.
Seriously...think of how smitten somebody is over you when you first start dating. The vows to not be "that guy," the promises to always call on time, the claims that family is the most important thing in life.
It's the kind of stuff you want to get in writing.
What's the one relationship promise -- other than, say, "I'll always love you" -- you wish was contractually binding?
what's going on tonight?
*The Shanty Shack, 4475 Warm Springs Road, hosts a Hallows Eve party featuring music from Connor Christian. Costume contest with cash prizes. No cover. Action starts around 9 p.m. 706-507-3418.
*The Roadhouse, 1047 Broadway, has a Columbus State University TEK-a-Treat Party. Action starts at 8 p.m. No cover. It's open to the public, but guests must be 21.
And another cool Thursday event...
*Belloo's, 900 Front Ave., has an art show 6-10 p.m. with works by Claiborne, a frequent entertainer at the club. There's also food and music. No cover. 706-494-1584.
dating bites
Yes, dating has its advantages, and for a whole bunch of people it often ends in a lifetime of marital bliss...but you have to agree that some of the conventions that accompany the process are just plain annoying.
Say, for example, the idea that you're always supposed to be "single and looking." Not just plain single.
Or the fact that if you're a girl, and you display any sort of extreme emotion -- whether it be anger or affection -- you're immediately called "psycho." Whereas a guy's actions in the same situation can be easily justified with a simple, "Well, that's just the way he is."
What do YOU hate most about dating?
on fire
Check out Chuck and Lily's excellent coverage of the fire here.
To Bibb City newcomers like me, it's a big deal, but I can't imagine what it was like for the many long-time residents who watched everything go down. Contrary to the spectators who randomly decided to set up BBQ grills amid the flames -- yep, true story -- many people watched a significant chunk of their lives burn away this morning.
I spoke with three of my neighbors this morning, including one guy who'd spent about 45 years of his life in that building.
It just proves how transitory so many aspects of life are, not to mention the fact that there are few uninterrupted nights in Bibb City.
Wednesday, October 29, 2008
cents and the small screen
wedding funeral
Finding out that a former fling of yours is getting married is always such a surreal experience. You're not angry, you're not disappointed, you just feel...weird.
I've had this sensation a few times. Fortunately I've always been able to criticize the bride-to-be's physical appearance just quickly enough to turn the situation into something that actually works to improve my self-esteem. Amazing.
Even so, just yesterday I learned through a social networking site that I guy I went out with, like, three times had recently gotten engaged. It still made me feel weird.
Probably a big part of it is the fear of ending up as the weaker half of a severed romance. The idea that everything that made you incompatible, everything that made the two of you not work...must be a consequence of you because you're the one who ended up alone.
Wow. Talk about depressing. Which is why I don't go to ex-boyfriends' weddings.
Anyone brave enough to take that plunge? Or, um, at least get invited?
biker party!
Tonight marks the start of "2-Wheel Tribute Night," a weekly Wednesday night promotion at Aqua Nightclub, 1812 Midtown Drive. The free event is geared toward the biker community and doors open at 5 p.m.
The promotion features happy hour prices until 8 p.m. and a surprise for anyone who shows up on a bike. Local party band Haywire performs beginning at 7 p.m. Also, Aqua will begin a bike of the month contest.
The event is open to partiers 21 and older.
girls cheat too
An excerpt:
University of Washington researchers have found that the lifetime rate of infidelity for men over 60 increased to 28 percent in 2006, up from 20 percent in 1991. For women over 60, the increase is more striking: to 15 percent, up from 5 percent in 1991.
The researchers also see big changes in relatively new marriages. About 20 percent of men and 15 percent of women under 35 say they have ever been unfaithful, up from about 15 and 12 percent respectively.
The piece raises a good issue in questioning the legitimacy of adultery statistics -- particularly because it isn't exactly something everyone wants to discuss with a researcher.
Still, I think there must be some truth to reports of a rise in infidelity. The rise of social networking sites makes it so easy to instantly connect with a former fling, rekindling relationships (or at least communication) that would previously be resigned to "what if."
What's more, there appears to be more of an acceptance of cheating as a justified action in relationships that have turned sexless and emotionless.
It doesn't make it any more right, but people outside the relationship seem to at least understand infidelity when it's accompanied by a story about a dysfunctional marriage.
Thoughts?
Fall Trend 2008: Zippers
No longer reserved for seams, exposed zippers were all over the runways at NY Fashion Week. Notably the most unexpected trend for fall, zippers are adorning everything you can imagine. How do you wear it? Try some accessories (like pumps or jewelry) for an understated touch or go bold with a funky dress in a rich fall color. Ready to zip it up? Click here to explore.
Tuesday, October 28, 2008
free tuesday shows!
*The Shanty Shack, 4475 Warm Springs Road, hosts a performance by local party band Haywire. Music starts around 8 p.m. Call 706-507-3418.
And for partiers of all ages...
*Indie rocker David Reed entertains at Fountain City Coffee, 1007 Broadway. Show starts around 8 p.m. Call 706-494-6659.
free tacos!
You can get a free crunchy taco at Taco Bell between 2 and 6 p.m. today. It's a special promotion that happens when a base is stolen during the World Series. Read more here.
Mmm. Count me in. I wouldn't be surprised if my dog was already on her way to T-Bell.
Monday, October 27, 2008
help me help u
dress up, spend down
As far as low-maintenance costumes go, never underestimate the power of a mask. Lemondrop has this piece about easy last-minute Halloween costumes. And here's a gallery of cool face makeup options courtesy of M-A-C Cosmetics.
I think people tend to stress a bit much about Halloween getups, especially since partiers tend to get so drunk that the entire night becomes one foggy memory defined by fishnets and black lipstick.
Still, it's always good to refer to lists like this collection of 7 costumes you should not wear for Halloween. My personal pet peeve is when a costume requires a 10-minute explanation.
back in action
The vacation was awesome. Really, no matter how many ill-fated yard-long margaritas you endure, it's hard not to have a good time in Vegas. Especially when you have a three-day pass to your hotel spa.
By far, my favorite part of the trip was the food. Sure, we had the obligatory Fatburger experience, but we really expanded our culinary tastes this time. It was another vehicle for me to fulfill my life mission of spending as many waking hours as possible pretending I'm on "The Hills."
You can see my three favorite dining experiences here, here and here.
Ah, memories...
That said, I'm back to business, and the blog of course is in full swing. This week, you can count on me as your go-to destination for all your Halloween party needs. Look forward to posts dedicated to last-minute costume tips, as well as more complex issues, like whether a thong and a tail can be considered an appropriate devil costume.
Fall Trend 2008: Feathers
Friday, October 24, 2008
Beyonce' & Solange Set to Tour Together
Lyfe Jennings News
Jennifer Hudson's Mother & Brother Found Shot in Home
sites i like: daily om
Today's site is DailyOM.
It's a collection of inspirational musings. You know the stuff that thrives on little chirping birds and gently swaying willow trees.
Yeah, not exactly everyone's cup of tea, but I've found that sometimes it helps to just take a step back from life and breathe.
And hopefully, that's what my vacation did for me.
See you Monday!
FALL IN LOVE WITH JAMES PERSE
Oversized Knits
Ladies, ditch your heavy coats and load up on oversized knits for Fall. This cozy cover-up adds warmth as the temperature drops but is also a multi-functional piece. Instead of putting away your Summer maxi-dresses transition them into fall with an oversized knit sweater. The James Perse “Boiled Cut Away Cardigan ” offers casual luxury with its 4 button turtleneck collar and wrap closure. I would pair this piece with a long skirt or maxi dress and peep toes pumps.
Pleats
This season you will see pleats on everything from clothing to accessories. Pleats allow you to express your girly side and add a touch of old Hollywood glamour to your look. James Perse offers a great knit this season (Open Drape Jacket ) in a luxurious pleated jersey blend that would look great over one of your floral dress for fall. Finish the look with a slim skinny belt, opaque tights, fabulous heels and a great handbag.
Thursday, October 23, 2008
sites i like: custom t-shirts
Recently, I found CustomInk.
Not only does the site let you design the slogan on your T-shirt...it also lets you pick the font, pictures and even the shirt's style.
I may have even recently used it to design the best birthday present in the entire world for a certain someone.
Prices aren't even that bad...most shirts are around $25. No shipping costs, either.
So go ahead and get crazy. Just don't make a shirt that reads, "Tentaclesex." I already own that one. Looong story.
Coming Friday: That yoga pose makes you look really hot.
Wednesday, October 22, 2008
Mary, Mary's New CD: "The Sound"
The duo sticks to the same formula on the CD "The Sound." Mary Mary churns out solid songs praising Jesus Christ alongside signature uptempo hooks on songs such as "Get Up" and "Boom." Mary Mary uses trendy vocoder vocals on "God In Me," featuring Kierra Sheard. The group also teams up with rapper David Banner on the anthem-like "Superfriend."
But the CD isn't filled with just vibrant, danceable grooves. On the guitar-driven ballad "Dirt," the sisters deliver a message that could rejuvenate anyone as they both bellow in harmony, "Champions never accept defeat/You fall and get back on your feet." And on ballad "Forgive Me," the singers talk about past failings and how tribulations helped their maturation as women.
Check out their song, "Get Up":
Get Up
sites i like: overheard at college
I got a little nostalgic as we corresponded -- nostalgic not only in the sentimental way, but also in the cringe-accompanied, "did I really do that" kind of way.
Fortunately, I don't have a lot of friends, so these feelings only arise once every couple months.
Usually, when I'm looking to reminisce, I turn to sites like Overheard at College: The Campus Speaks.
It's a collection of -- you guessed it -- students' submissions of things randomly overheard at college. Oh, memories...
Coming Thursday: Go ahead, wear your insecurities on your sleeve. I'm serious.
Fall Trend 2008: Lace
Miuccia Prada set the fashion world abuzz when she debuted her lace-y fall line at Fashion Week. Trendsetters and fashionistas alike have been craving this delicate fabric ever since. The absolute best thing about lace is its versatility. What other fabric allows you to be ultra feminine, uber romantic or the ultimate rocker chic at the blink of an eye? This season designers are experimenting with lace in innovative ways. They are layering different colors and textures which has lead to some wickedly creative concoctions. My favorite part of this trend has been seeing jewelry designers incorporate lace into their little masterpieces. Ready to get your hands on this trend? Click here to explore.
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
sites i like: meetways
From a practical standpoint alone, there's the constant debate of whose turn it is to make a road trip. I can only imagine how much harder those discussions have gotten with the economy's current state.
Fortunately, the Internet is here to help, thanks to MeetWays.
The site allows you to find a halfway point between two addresses. Whether they're in the same state, or across the country. You can even search by what kind of place you'd like to meet at.
So maybe that Topeka hottie isn't that far away after all.
Coming Wednesday: Beer pong. Easy Mac. All-nighters. Must be time for a little college regression.
Monday, October 20, 2008
sites i like: daily bedpost
Anyway, in these craftily prepared advance posts, I'm directing you to one diversion-packed Web site a day.
My first installment? Daily Bedpost.
It's pretty much your authoritative daily source on relationship advice. Imagine your favorite women's magazine without the obligatory "real life" story about a girl who gets raped/killed/tortured by an online fling who convinced her to travel across the country.
So check out the site and consider your dating dilemmas solved.
Coming Tuesday: One for all the long-distance relationship fans out there.
Fall Trend 2008: Pearls
Grandmothers always have the best pearls. They are a dependable, go-to classic which look regal whenever you see them in the family album. This season designers are taking a step out of the box by updating this classic. You'll find pearls de-constructed, embellished, and encrusted on everything from clothing to accessories. John Paul Gaultier puts a pearl necklace on his booties, Phillip Lim features them on his neckline and Alexander McQueen creates pearl flowers on his bolero. Ready to try some pearls on for size? Click here to explore.
Friday, October 17, 2008
on vacation!
what's going on this weekend?
FRIDAY
• DJ Booty, 10 p.m. Aqua Nightclub, free. 706-569-1165.
• The Relics, 10 p.m. Belloo's, $5. 706-494-1584.
• Whisky Bent, 10 p.m. Scruffy Murphy's, $5. 706-322-3460.
• Spent, 8 p.m. Daileys, $5. 706-320-3353.
• Peggy Jenkins and the Bizness, 9:30 p.m. The Loft, $5. 706-596-8141.
• Colossick, Souls Harbor, 10 p.m. SoHo Bar & Grill, $5. 706-568-3316.
• Caleb Gamble, 9 p.m. Fountain City Coffee, free. 706-494-6659. All ages.
• Boneheadz, 9 p.m. Saloon & Oyster Bar, free. 706-568-8400.
• DJs Ms. B and Fran, 8 p.m. The Roadhouse, free.
SATURDAY
• DJ Booty, 10 p.m. Aqua Nightclub, free. 706-569-1165.
• The Relics, 10 p.m. Belloo's, $5. 706-494-1584.
• Spent, 8 p.m. Daileys, $5. 706-320-3353.
• Whisky Bent, 10 p.m. Scruffy Murphy's, $5. 706-322-3460.
• The Coal Men with Matt Self, 9:30 p.m. The Loft, $5. 706-596-8141.
• Lowry, Fixer, 10 p.m. SoHo Bar & Grill, $5. 706-568-3316.
• Gini Woolfolk, 9 p.m. Fountain City Coffee, free. 706-494-6659. All ages.
• Boneheadz, 9 p.m. Saloon & Oyster Bar, free. 706-568-8400.
• DJs Ms. B and Fran, 8 p.m. The Roadhouse, free.
consider yourself warned
OK, it's a little degrading -- especially the "national alert levels" at the top of the Web site -- but I'm kind of a fan. If nothing else, a little advance notice might encourage some compassion, not to mention an end to male-driven conversations that falsely ask, "Are you saying that because you're on your period?"
The only(?) creepy thing is how the site recommends guys track their sisters and moms, too. Um, totally TMI.
What do you think, ladies? Would you be offended if your bf signed up for the service? And guys, are PMS warnings a blessing or a curse?
Thursday, October 16, 2008
what's going on tonight?
Here's the rest of your Thursday night lineup:
*Lee Holmes performs 6-10 p.m. at Picasso Pizza, 1020 Broadway. No cover. 706-576-6991.
*College night features karaoke with Mike V at The Roadhouse, 1047 Broadway. Doors open at 8 p.m. No cover.
*The local Southern rockers from Whisky Bent take the stage at Scruffy Murphy's, 1037 Broadway. Music starts at 10 p.m. No cover. 706-322-3460.
*Musician Greg Barrett entertains at Belloo's, 900 Front Ave. Show starts around 8:30 p.m. No cover. 706-494-1584.
*SoHo Bar & Grill, 5751 Milgen Road, hosts the Athens, Ga.-based rockers from WILX. Music starts at 10 p.m. Cover is $5, free for military. 706-568-3316.
*Atlanta-based singer/songwriter Connor Christian performs at the Shanty Shack, 4475 Warm Springs Road. Show starts at 9 p.m. No cover. 706-507-3418.
*Fountain City Coffee, 1007 Broadway, has an open mike beginning at 8 p.m. No cover. 706-494-6659.
*There's an open mike at After 5, 3709 Gentian Blvd. Music starts at 9 p.m. No cover. 706-507-0024.
Fountain City's open mike is for all ages, all other events are 21 and older.
great boyfriends?
The testimonials may have some benefit, but I imagine there are hardly any moms who would give a negative comment on their son's dating potential.
And there's nothing worse than being set up with a guy your friends rave about...only to go out with him, have an absolutely horrible night and then have deal with gently recapping things for your friends the next morning.
It reminds me of another one of my breakup pet peeves: when, while breaking up with you, a guy utters the infamous, "Any guy would be lucky to date you." That is such a joke.
Please ditch that line, boys. It doesn't make us feel any better. Especially if you say it right after cheating on us.
roadhouse hosts college night
I'll kick things off by reminding you of tonight's college night promotion at The Roadhouse, 1047 Broadway, which gives patrons 50-cent draft beer. Mmm.
Open to partiers 21 and older, the night also features karaoke with Mike V. Doors open at 8 p.m.
I'll post the rest of tonight's offerings a little later this afternoon.
Wednesday, October 15, 2008
bittersweet symphony
Thursday's nightlife column is about some of my favorite karaoke cliches. You know, the audience members who sing along with the music like they're at a real concert. The female 20-something who takes the stage for a self-empowering round of "I Will Survive."
Now, basically every popular bar hosts at least one karaoke night a week. But if you're really looking to bask in karaoke as a night with, um, stories to tell your friends, try these often overlooked hot spots:
Lil Kim's Cove, 101 Fourth St., 706-323 -3315
Look no farther than this bar's Web site for evidence of its eclectic appeal: Among its featured karaoke regulars? Billy, aka: "Swivel Hips." I kid you not. Karaoke is Wednesdays, Fridays and Saturdays.
Del Ranch Bar & Grill, 4920 Lee Road 430 Smiths, Ala.,
334-297-9177
It's not just karaoke here. It's EXTREME karaoke. For real, that's how it's billed. The "extreme" component is what happens when the bar's staff chooses singers' selections. It happens Wednesdays, Thursdays and Sundays.
Saloon & Oyster Bar, 6005 Macon Road, 706-568-8400
I hit this hot spot Sunday night to take a photo my column and I had a blast. My only regret? That I couldn't rock out to the back-to-back songs dedicated to ladies 60 and older. Karaoke is Wednesdays and Sundays.
What's your favorite local karaoke hot spot?
gender lessons with beyonce
Thank God it took the friendly McDonald's employees six minutes to make my two McChicken sandwiches last night. Otherwise, I might not have been able to hear the new Beyonce song, "If I Were A Boy," while waiting in the drive-thru.
Let me tell you how much I love this song: a lot.
Basically the whole premise of the video is that a guy and his girlfriend switch places for a day and he realizes how awful it feels to be taken for granted. My favorite scene in the music video is when she makes him breakfast and he just scarfs down the food without even thanking her.
I think probably every girl in the world has wanted a guy to feel the sting that comes with feeling unappreciated like that.
OK, ladies...what did Beyonce forget? What would you do if you were a boy for a day?
free show!
The local Southern rockers from Strokin’ Dixie perform a free show tonight at Aqua Nightclub, 1812 Midtown Drive. Doors open at 5 p.m.
Open to partiers 21 and older, the show is part of a Wednesday night party that includes $1 draft beer and happy hour prices until 8 p.m. Call 706-569-1165.
the ex factor
Here's an interesting Chicago dating event that lets people set their exes up with more compatible matches. Assuming you've broken up amicably and there aren't lingering feelings, it could be a good idea. I mean, if you dated someone for a long time, you have a pretty good idea of who he or she would be attracted to, right?
But I'd be pretty creeped out if I met a guy through his ex-girlfriend's urging. Color me paranoid, but I'd regard any girl still involved in his dating life as competition.
How many exes would you recommend -- confidently -- as a potential romantic match for a friend?
A friend you don't want to be heartbroken and miserable, that is.
Tuesday, October 14, 2008
Victoria Rowell Engaged
ghosts, goblins, sarah palin
personal hang ups
I jumped on the cell phone bandwagon a little late. I got my first one in my senior year of college, about five years ago. My current cell doesn't take pictures or really do anything cool at all. Sometimes I pretend it's a highly technical imported device when I use it as an alarm clock.
I still have a handful of friends without cell phones, but that number is dwindling.
I just don't think it's realistic to go without a cell now. I can't imagine my parents allowing me to embark on my cross-country drive here without constant phone access. I told this to someone opposed to cell phones, and he said, "Well, the Donner party made it across the country by wagon." Yeah, but they also got EATEN.
That said, I definitely have my cell phone gripes. The biggest of which is when people are talking on a phone while in the grocery store checkout and they don't even acknowledge the cashier through the whole transaction.
I have to say, though, I've learned to view many of my former cell phone pet peeves as just a fact of life.
In this day and age, is it possible to complain about cell phones without sounding like a crotchety old man?
free tuesday show!
Local party band Mindblender performs a free show tonight at the Shanty Shack, 4475 Warm Springs Road. Music starts around 8 p.m.
It's open to partiers 21 and older. Call 706-507-3418.
Monday, October 13, 2008
porn sex xxx
Nonetheless, it made for good blog inspiration, especially when combined with Newsweek's review of this book devoted to the "pornification" of today's youth.
True, things like stripper poles and Ron Jeremy cameos have become more mainstream. And I was even surprised to see "Privileged," a primetime show on the CW, include a scene when a teenager purchases porn to improve her moves.
I think part of it is just the natural effect of a culture that's become increasingly sexualized and more willing to test boundaries.
That said, it's tough dealing with all of it as a woman...especially given the usually college-level pressure to be the "cool girl" who watches explicit material with the guys, or at least lets her boyfriend enjoy it.
But as you get older, and more aware that the material represents something you're distinctly NOT, porn becomes more of a value question.
Are rumors of a cultural "pornification" overblown? Do you think there's any truth to cases like porn addiction?
smash it up
Fortunately, smashing your favorite object doesn't have to result in a trip to psych ward anymore. At least if you live in San Diego.
That's where you'll find Sarah's Smash Shack, a store that lets people "throw, smash and destroy an array of breakable objects in two private rooms and release their energies and emotions without fear of reprisal."
Visit the store's Web site here.
Sounds fun. It kind of channels the same high you get from burning letters or pictures.
What's your favorite quasi-violent way to get closure?
instant euphoria
Happy Monday, everyone.
I can't help but notice that more and more of my friends have been down in the dumps lately. I think it's partially due to the changing seasons, and even more so a result of the shaky economy. At times, shaky finances make you reexamine the career choices you've made in your life. They also bring forward certain insecurities about the future you would have buried otherwise.
I haven't been exempt from it, either. But while analyzing some larger existential questions over the weekend, I realized I'd forgotten the importance of power music.
You know, that one song or music video -- yes, music videos still exist -- guaranteed to psych you up and make you believe you can conquer anything. For some people, it's a Jock Jams megamix. Others prefer a techno remix of Enrique Iglesias' "Hero." Hey, I'm not gonna judge.
My power song is the video included with this post -- Kelly Clarkson's performance of "Since U Been Gone" from the 2005 MTV Video Music Awards. For some reason, I can't get enough of it. And yes, I realize some psychological issues likely result from deriving energy from a song about self-reliance...but I don't care.
I feel better already.
What's your power song?
Sunday, October 12, 2008
Former "American Idol" Contestant, LaKisha Jones, Weds
LaKisha's album is to be released on October 28th. You can hear her first single, "So Glad I'm Me", on her official website
photos via essence.com
Friday, October 10, 2008
Tyra Banks & Modelville
- Bianca Golden, Cycle 9: Carol’s Daughter Candy Paint in Razz-Berry Beret, Cranberry Kiss, and Wild Berry
- Renee Alway, Cycle 8: Carol’s Daughter Tui Hair Smoothie
- Lauren Utter, Cycle 10: Carol’s Daughter Love Butter
- Dominique Reighard, Cycle 10: Carol’s Daughter Lemon Ginger Mint Manicure in a Jar
- Fatima Siad, Cycle 10: Carol’s Daughter Hair Milk
Atleast we now know what some of the former "Top Model" contestants are up to.
Tyra is definitely doing her thing and letting her presence be known out there!!
what's going on this weekend?
In other weekend offerings:
FRIDAY
*Gone Country, 9 p.m. Saloon & Oyster Bar, free. 706-568-8400.
*Claiborne & Friends, 10 p.m. Belloo's, $5. 706-494-1584.
*DJ Booty, 10 p.m. Aqua Nightclub, free. 706-569-1165.
*The Grayhill Conspiracy, 9 p.m. Scruffy Murphy's, $5. 706-322-3460.
*Peggy Jenkins and the Bizness, 10 p.m. The Loft, $5. 706-596-8141.
*We All Look Like Jesus, Broken, 10 p.m. SoHo Bar & Grill, $5. 706-568-3316.
*Eric Turner, 9 p.m. Fountain City Coffee, free. 706-494-6659. All ages.
*DJs Ms. B and Fran, 8 p.m. The Roadhouse, free.
*The Oneeders, 8 p.m. Daileys, $5. 706-320-3353.
SATURDAY
*The Grayhill Conspiracy (with Celtic Crossroads after-party), 9 p.m. ScruffyMurphy's, $5. 706-322-3460.
*Claiborne & Friends, 10 p.m. Belloo's, $5. 706-494-1584.
*DJ Booty, 10 p.m. Aqua Nightclub, free. 706-569-1165.
*Gone Country, 9 p.m. Saloon & Oyster Bar, free. 706-568-8400.
*DJs Ms. B and Fran, 8 p.m. The Roadhouse, free.
*Tim Brantley with Dreaden, 9:30 p.m. The Loft, $5. 706-596-8141.
*Suburban Camouflage, 10 p.m. SoHo Bar & Grill, $5. 706-568-3316.
*Grant Harvin, 9 p.m. Fountain City Coffee, free. 706-494-6659. All ages.
*The Oneeders, 8 p.m. Daileys, $5. 706-320-3353.
survey says
Fortunately, you can occupy a good 5 minutes of your time by filling out this Maxim survey designed to give guys an idea of what women really want.
If only guys actually paid attention to this stuff.
I once read a book about Japanese whorehouses that showcased the sexual preference surveys clients filled out before getting it on. At risk of making sex even more demeaning and business-like, I really wish a similar practice was in place here.
In relationships, not whorehouses.
Imagine how much easier things would be if upon the onset of physical activity, you filled out a simple 7- to 10-item survey informing your partner of your likes and dislikes.
Even if he'd just be following a set of paper guidelines, it sure beats disappointment that comes when you expect every guy to have an innate knowledge of what you want.
Thursday, October 9, 2008
speak up, bitches
While I disagree with images of the typical passive female, I do think there are areas in which women don't stand up for themselves enough. It's generally a decision driven by a fear of controversy.
Or, just as often, a fear of sounding selfish.
In relationships, I often devise three-item lists of things that would make me happier. I've even gone to the length of reciting the list in front of a mirror. But I've never actually followed through and publicly conveyed the requests.
There's part of my mind that says no relationship can be perfect, and it's silly to focus on petty things that would make ME happy.
But actually, that's a pretty stupid thought. Regardless of whether your request is honored, asking for something alone can be empowering.
And if your partner immediately refuses to hear you out?
Well, that's an answer to another question.
what's going on tonight?
*Lee Holmes performs 6-10 p.m. at Picasso Pizza, 1020 Broadway. No cover. 706-576-6991.
*The Atlanta and Athens, Ga.-based rockers from Ponderosa entertain at SoHo Bar & Grill, 5751 Milgen Road. Music starts at 10 p.m. Cover is $5, free for military. 706-568-3316.
*Fountain City Coffee, 1007 Broadway, has an open mike beginning at 8 p.m. No cover. 706-494-6659.
*Greg Barrett takes the stage at Belloo's, 900 Front Ave. Show starts at 10 p.m. No cover. 706-494-1584.
*Birmingham-based rock act The Reloaders entertain at the Shanty Shack, 4475 Warm Springs Road. Show starts at 9 p.m. No cover. 706-507-3418.
*Scruffy Murphy's, 1037 Broadway, hosts Alabama-based rocker Tony Brook and his band. Music starts at 10 p.m. No cover. 706-322-3460.
*The Roadhouse, 1047 Broadway, has karaoke beginning at 8 p.m. No cover.
*There's an open mike at After 5, 3709 Gentian Blvd. Music starts at 9 p.m. No cover. 706-507-0024.
Events at Picasso Pizza and Fountain City Coffee are open to all ages. All other events are 21 and older.
know your party
Today's nightlife column is about talking politics on a date. Most people say it's generally a "don't" in a relationship's early stages, but avoiding those discussions seems a little more difficult during election season.
Even beyond dates, people seem more likely to bring up politics on the nightlife scene. Maybe even more so with me, because when I say I'm a journalist, they immediately assume I'm some authoritative source on all things political. At a recent Saturday night party, some guy out of the blue turned to me and said, "You're a reporter. What do you think about the election?"
I hate unprompted serious debates. The question I just mentioned generally gives hives.
It's not so much the speaking component of political discussions that I fear, but rather the fact that often you're expected to have a firm, substantiated stance on every facet of the political arena.
On some policy areas, my views are still evolving -- so much that I can't immediately answer every question with an emphatic tirade about what needs to be changed.
But I guess half the battle is just being open to the discussion itself, even if it comes in the middle of a Saturday night party. It's nice to know partiers are capable of debating something other than which kind of martini to order.
And I hope at least a few people get a little turned on when I publicly use the word "dichotomy."
For more about the election, read the Ledger's political blog here.
Wednesday, October 8, 2008
break up & make up
is rachael ray gay?
I got an e-mail from Erin Collins, an out-of-towner performing at the event. Among her song collection? An ode to Rachael Ray in which the singer tells the chef she'll be hers for less than $40 a day. She also sings about STDs...always a good time.
Check out Erin Collins' MySpace here.
The open mike starts around 8:30 p.m. No cover. Call 706-596-8141.
Halle Berry's "Esquire Magazine's" Sexiest Woman Alive
Halle's boyfriend, Gabriel Aubry, spills-the-beans to Usmagazine.com that he and the 41-year-old actress are trying to have another baby. “Yeah, we are working on that!” he told Us at Elle magazine’s 15th Annual Women in Hollywood event in Beverly Hills, where Berry was honored on Monday. Despite wanting to expand their family, Aubry said, “We have no plans for marriage. We are more married than ever, really.”
drunk missives
Enable the application and you'll be asked to solve some math problems before the e-mail goes through, thus highlighting any sobriety problems.
What a great idea. I think every girl has received an emotional, feelings-laden e-mail from an otherwise detached guy -- and then watched him be clueless at any mention of the note the next morning.
I try to resist an urge to drink and type. Having no Internet at home definitely helps.
When I do send such e-mails, however, I try to convince myself that I'm just expressing my real, "Dawson's Creek"-inspired emotions.
And that I probably wouldn't be able to solve those Gmail math problems while sober, anyway.
jamie lynn pregnant again?
Tuesday, October 7, 2008
clothing optional
Among my favorite suggestions: Fashionistas who still need their fashion moment in the sun, can wear slinky cover ups to match their sandals and hats or visors. If you like bling, wear flirty ankle chains or toe rings. Jeweled hair clips can complete your birthday suit ensemble.
Yeah, because I'm sure when you're naked in front of someone, his eyes are going to go directly to your flirty ankle chain or toe ring.
I once went on a date to a half-naked, half-clothed beach. I had all these visions of us becoming one with the environment and allowing sand to travel where the sun usually doesn't shine. Unfortunately, when we arrived at the naked section of the beach, the sights weren't pretty. And I'm not referring to the endless rows of seagull crap.
Nude beaches: Bare is sexy, or barely sexy?
(Via Daily Scanner)
free tuesday show!
The local rockers from Forced Entry perform a free show tonight at the Shanty Shack, 4475 Warm Springs Road. Music starts around 9 p.m.
It's open to partiers 21 and older. Call 706-507-3418.
beauty cents
This article says that despite shaky finances, most women are still indulging in expensive makeup and cosmetic procedures like Botox.
Must be nice. I'm approaching my eight-month anniversary of life without manicures and pedicures -- an indulgence I gave up when my bank account started losing its stability.
Sure, every girl has her favorite beauty indulgence, but over the past few years I'm sure I've spent a total of over $100 on things that are completely unnecessary. Two words: eyelash curler.
What do you think is the most unnecessary beauty product on the market?
Paris Bennett Gives Birth
Tyler Perry's Grand Opening
Eva & Lance, Will Smith, Oprah, Sidney Poitier, The Kodjoes, Kirk Franklin, & more were in attendance!!!!!
Congrats Tyler!!
Baby Couture Double Covers: Kim Porter & Sean Combs
Tameka's Showing